Never Go Alone

My 8 year old does not like to be by herself.  When she goes to a part of our house, where no one else is, she always calls for someone to go with her.  She does not like to watch t.v. alone, sleep alone, or walk up the sidewalk at school alone.  She doesn’t understand it now, but she’s never by herself.  God is always with her.  He never leaves us alone.  In Romans 8:38-39, the apostle Paul explains, “For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, not powers, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus, our Lord.”

I think that covers about any place you could be.  And where is God?  Right there with you!  I have heard if God seems far away, who moved?  This is so true.  It plainly states in the scriptures that God is with us, if we want Him to be.    I know some people may not know God, & may not care.  I don’t mean to be blunt, but boy, they are missing out!  They are missing out of the most terrific, comforting, loving, peaceful spirit they could ever experience, in their lives.  Isn’t that a wonderful comfort?  Just to know God is with us & protects us & loves us.

We should always strive to be close to God.  One way to do this is by praying.  We can pray at anytime, anywhere.  It does not have to be quiet, head bowed, with no one around.  You can pray in the car, at work, taking your kids to school, or at the check out line at the grocery store.   Why, I have even heard of stop light prayers.  When you are stopped in your car at a stop light, look around at a vehicle next to you & say a prayer for that person.  Who knows what blessing it could be for them!  It’s so important to talk to God.  It’s hard to feel alone, when you are talking to God.  I heard a preacher’s wife, who was speaking at a Ladies Day I attended, talk about this:  Another way to be close to God is to read His word, the Bible.  Can you imagine wanting to be friends with someone, but never letting them talk to you?  This is when you allow God to talk to you, when you read His word.  Doesn’t that make sense?  Read your Bible, let God talk to you.  How could you feel alone with someone talking to you?

I firmly believe we can enrich our lives & live them to the fullest by walking with God.  We do this by praying & listening to Him in His word.   My prayer is that you keep God in your heart.  That way, you will never go anywhere alone.  I so hope you ponder these things for awhile.  I have enjoyed being here with you today.   However, for now, I must go, because I should be washing clothes……..

What I need to know, I learned from a dog named Tiger

Throughout my life I have not been robbed of the privilege of being acquainted with a menagerie of people, and lots of pets.  At times the most loyal have been the four legged’s.  Dogs to be specific.  I have been blessed with 5 children.  Each one are different, with terrific personalities.  All of our canine friends have been somewhat the same.

Reflecting back, I can remember one dog in particular, that really stands out.  His name was Tiger.  Tiger belonged to my Daddy’s Mama & Daddy.  We lived beside them for 12 years, so I was accustomed  to being friendly with all their outdoor family. I was probably around 7 years old when Tiger lived at my Grandparent’s house.  Tiger & I were very big buddies .  He had a greyhound for a Mama & a black & tan travelin’ man for a Daddy.  Tiger have some very noteworthy attributes.  He never tried to be something he wasn’t.  If he growled & barked & acted like he was going to bite, he probably would.  Take for instance the time he tried to bite a neighborhood vacuum cleaner salesman.  He bit at his tires on his truck, instead, but everybody knew Tiger was not “puttin’ on” anything.  Besides being loyal, he was territorial as the devil.  One of my Grandpa’s friend’s sat in his car, a many a times, waiting for my Grandpa to come outside.

My Grandpa would walk out on the car porch, smile his toothless grin & say to his friend, “Git on out. Tiger won’t hurt ye.”

His friend would roll his window down & reply, “If ye wantin’ to play checkers, git ye dawg back.  Ifn’ ye ain’t, I’ll jest go back home.  My butterbeans need a pickin’ anyways.”

My Grandpa would chuckle & state to Tiger, very authoritive, “Tiger, git on back he’er!”  Tiger would stop barking, look at my Grandpa & turn & walk up on the car porch.

My Grandpa would command again & point his finger to a shady spot beside the doorsteps, “Now, lay down he’er!”  Tiger, immediately laid down at the appropriate place.  Only at that time, would his friend ease on out of his car.

“Now ye gonna hafta quit stayin’ gone s’long,” he would say to his friend, as he put his hand on his shoulder,”it’s gittin’ to wher’ the dog don’t even know ye!”

His friend would tip his hat & say, “Well, I’m havin’ to git my garden in.”

And they would walk in the house.  His friend would have his hat in his hand as he greeted my Grandma.(As any Southern gentleman would.)

By this time, Tiger was calmer, more at ease.  He had done his job, as protector, once again.

Tiger was always pretty intimidating to others.  But not to me.  He would let me comb his hair & look at his teeth.  He never barked at me.  He let me hold his head in my lap & I would pet him for a good while.  I would get to hold the tick jar, when my grandfather picked ticks off of him, too.  If you are not privy to what a tick jar is, I will explain.  My Grandma gave my Grandpa one of her empty glass Dental Snuff jars.  In it, he poured motor oil.  Once a tick was placed in this jar, it could be brought to its needful demise.  You certainly could get quite a collection of those things in a jar.  No one really appreciated the assortment of ticks.  I would proudly hold up the jar, for my aunts & uncles to view, when they visited.  They were not amused.  Even my cousins were mostly disgusted.  Except for one of my girl cousins.  She was a bit tom boyish, like me.  She understood what time it was with the tick jar.  She was always willing to see what contents the jar held.  And too, for Tiger’s sake, you must be aware, we lived in rural Mississippi.  We had lots of woods (many, many pine trees), briars, & thickets around our place.  Plenty of acres for Tiger to roam & get ticks.

One of the best lessons I’ve ever learned involved Tiger.  Although Tiger had some beautiful & noteworthy characteristics, he also had a habit.  The habit that finally ended it all for him.  Tiger loved to chase cars.  It was his vice.  No matter how much we begged, pleaded, & even punished Tiger, he loved to chase a car.  Nothing would stop him.  One time my Grandpa tried chaining him up.  Tiger was miserable.  He wouldn’t eat, so my Grandpa finally turned him loose.  He went right out & chased cars again.  He was like a functioning addict.  He lived life as a sane, good, obedient dog.  Then, a car would come up the road & he headed straight for it.  It was crazy.  One day, when we least expected it , something happened.  The state department was paving the county road up a ways towards our neighbor’s house.  Mind you, our next door neighbor was a mile up the rural country road.  There was a dump truck, that had been hauling back & forth by my Grandparent’s house.  That’s when Tiger began to watch closely.  I knew what was about to happen.  I was standing outside, in my Grandparent’s front yard, twirling my Grandma’s fly swatter like a baton. (I was pretending to be in a marching band.)  Tiger ran out to the road.  He was running so fast.  He headed right toward the dump truck passing by.  The driver of the dump truck never saw Tiger, as he ran out behind it.  Tiger got caught by one of the back tires.  I yelled & ran out toward the road.  My Grandma was watching me out the front kitchen window, as she cooked.  She was wiping her hands on a  dish towel, as she hurried out of the house.

She shouted at me, “Sugar, don’t you go out there in the road! Yer liable to git hit!”

By that time, I was crying.  I stopped at the ditch, right before the road.  My Grandma headed past me.  I mean, making a bee-line out on the road.  Tiger had met his maker.  She took him by the back leg & dragged his lifeless body out of the hot, paved, road.  My Grandpa had gone to the store.  My Grandma did not want Tiger left out on the road.

I wailed, “Is he dead?”

She whispered, “Yes, yes, he is pumpkin.”  I grabbed her around her tiny waist.  She was sweating from the heat, but she held me tight.

“I don’t want Tiger to be gone.” I sobbed.

As she started leading me back toward the house, she said, “Tiger’s in a better place.  He’s in dog heaven.”

I began to stop crying, “Dog heaven?”, I questioned.  I was very interested in this new heard of “dog heaven”.

“Oh yes,” she said wisely, “all kinds of animals go to heaven when they die.”

“Even dogs?”, I asked.

“Yes, ma’am.  God loves dogs.  He take care of ’em when they leave this ‘ol world.”  she replied.

“Really?”, I skeptically said.

My Grandma stopped and stooped over to look me in the eyes.  “If it’s important enough, for the good Lord to put’em here, He’s gonna take care of ’em for good.” she said tenderly.  I looked in her eyes hard.  Snuff was in corners of her mouth, when her sweet smile appeared on her lips.  I buried my head into her cotton dress & squeezed her.  Right at that time. my Grandpa turned in their gravel driveway.  As he got out of the ’63 Ford Fairlane, my Grandma made her way over to tell him about the terrible accident.

Even though, I had just lost a companion, I felt better.  I had learned several lessons- in a real crisis, it’s good to show respect and bring about dignity to anyone or animal during death.  I saw a caring way you should treat the ones you love.  I was taught that comfort is sometimes one of the most profound feelings of all.  I learned that sometimes we can have family from all walks of life.  That’s not counting out our dear, devoted four-legged companions.  All in all, I would say, this was a great life lesson.  It just made it a little more priceless coming from an unexpected teacher.

Funny stuff

One time, when Miss Neenee was about 5 years old, we were going over the names of the apostles. Her Sunday School class was learning them. She was working hard to memorize them. She started out practicing, “Peter, Andrew, James, John, Philip, Simon, Theodore, Bartholomew……..” I said, “Wait a minute! One of those was a chipmunk.” She grinned really big & said, “Oh yeah! I knew that!”

One night, when Miss Neenee was about 6 years old, she was having trouble going to sleep. She was tossing & turning & kept wiggling around in her bed. I told her she needed to be still & go to sleep. She said she couldn’t be still because Katy was in the bed with her & that she was the one being wiggly. (Katy was her imaginary friend.) I told her to tell Katy if she did not go to sleep, I was going to spank her butt. Miss Neenee replied, “Uh, you might not want to do that.” I asked why. She said, “Because Katy’s Dad is a professional wrestler.”

Everyday Hero

My Daddy is one of my heroes.  Throughout my life, he has stepped up, at the right time, to take care of what needed taking care of.  He has stepped back, to let us make our own lives.  He’s also stepped in, to mend broken hearts & give comfort & joy to us.  Most importantly, he’s been there for our family at all times.  One thing I have to give credit to Daddy is that he taught me & my older brother about God.  He taught us that God was just God.  He taught us that God was God when there was gladness & rejoicing.  That God was just God when there was heartache.  That God was just God when there was pain & suffering, even grieving.  I’m so proud He’s just God.  He’s just like that.  God’s God when we are on the mountain & in the valley.  I’m a mountain girl, myself, but find myself in the valley, sometimes, too.  I’ve found that He’s God of the valley.  He continues to be with me there.  Through everything, I know if I hold on to the Lord, He will never let go of me.  I have learned this from my Daddy many times.  When my Mama was sick, Daddy used that as a time to tell others how God was working in their lives-no matter of the adversity.  He would tell others how out of necessity, he learned to make biscuits & gravy.  Mama liked them so well.  He would tell how his & Mama’s relationship had grown & become memorable.  He gave God the glory for their situation.  Then, when she died, he used that to tell others how God worked greatly in their lives.  It made them both better Christians.  Even though the times were tough, he did not use that time to tell others how bad it was.  He used it to glorify God.  That was just amazing to me.  A man getting up each day at 4 a.m.  Just to make sure he had Mama’s breakfast ready, before he went to work.   Worked all day, came home & dealt with whatever the evening held.   Most of the time it was pretty eventful around their house, too.  Complications from her disease (MS), made things quite unpredictable for her & Daddy.  He never one time complained or made any kind of indication he was tired of trying to make her comfortable.  He always made sure she had fresh flowers in her room, beside her bed.  When times were demanding, to say the least,  he stepped up to the plate everytime.  It was as if, he knew this was where he was supposed to be.  He did not question it.  He just did it.  Perhaps he had read, understood, & applied Philippians 4:7

“And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding,

will guide your hearts

and minds, through Christ Jesus.”

Daddy taught my brother & I that with Christ, you have everything.  Only through Christ will we have that peace, that we can’t describe.  Without Christ, we will have nothing. Period.  It’s funny.  We do not have the power to pick our parents.  I don’t know why I am so blessed to have been given the Daddy & Mama God picked for me.  I’m just glad He thought enough of me- to give me to them.  I also am thankful, that I have a Daddy, who has taught me how to have everything.  That’s what a hero is all about!

Words to live by

Following are some things I have been told, at some point throughout my life.  Of course by those wiser than me.  They are pearls of wisdom from people that I love & have loved me.

1.  Always wear a necklace–by Mama

2.  Always tell me the truth.  Because, if you don’t, I will find out.  Then, it will be worse than if you have of just owned up to it. –by Mama

3.  Never pay more than $20,000 on anything that doesn’t have a front porch.–by Daddy

4.  Don’t do drugs.  It’s just not worth it.  You’re better than that.–by my brother

5.  A man that will lie, will steal.– by my Papaw

6.  When they sing the invitation song (at church), don’t you dare move. –by Mama (This was when I was little & could not stay still for nothing.  Remember, my Daddy was the preacher.  He took it very seriously.)

7.  Don’t go to bed with gum in your mouth.–by Mama

8.  For every sorry man, there’s a sorry woman.–by my mother-in-law

9.  I have never gone to church, that when it was over, I said, “I wished I hadn’t done that.” –by my father-in-law

10.  You will never regret being kind.  So, be kind. –by my Mamaw

11.  Don’t wear your Sunday shoes to the barn.–by my Papaw

12.  Shut that smart mouth.–by Mama

13.  You should always be nice to people because when you’re not, well, it just might hurt their heart. –by my youngest daughter

14. Always look under your covers before you get in bed.  –by my mother-in-law

15.  You know what you get when you argue with an idiot?  Two idiots arguing. –by my brother

16.  Always wear lipstick. –by Mama

17.  Never leave the house without looking presentable.  You will always run into someone you know. –by Daddy

18.  Always say yes ma’am, no ma’am, yes sir, no sir.– by Mama

19.  Sometimes you must do things just because somebody else wants you to do it.–by Mama

20.  Don’t blame things on others.  Always ask what could you have done to have made the situation better.–by Daddy

21.   Always act & look better than you feel. –by Mama

22.  Act like somebody.–by Mama

23. It’s ok to be mad at your brother.  But don’t bite yourself & say he did it.–by Mama

Of course I could go on & on.  However, right now I have to stop.  Because I should be washing clothes………..

It’s in the Valleys I Grow

This is a poem, I had cut out somewhere & kept.  You may have seen it before.  I think it is well worth mentioning.  I did not write it.  However, love the message it sends.   It’s a good reminder that we can’t always live life on top of the world.  I have heard that if your life is good all the time, you can compare it to sunshine.  Too much sunshine creates a dry, desert.  If your life is bad all the time, you can compare it to rain.  Too much rain, creates a wet, nasty, jungle.   However, the right balance of good & bad develops a place we can prosper & grow.  Hopefully, this is something you can use today.

Sometimes life seems hard to bear,

Full of sorrow, trouble, and woe.

It’s then I have to remember,

That it’s in the valleys I grow.

If I always stayed on the mountain top,

And never experienced pain,

I would never appreciate God’s love

And would be living in vain.

I have so much to learn

And my growth is very slow,

Sometimes I need the mountain tops,

But it’s in the valleys I grow.

My little valleys are nothing

When I picture Christ on the cross.

He went through the valley of death;

His victory was Satan’s loss.

Forgive me Lord, for complaining,

When I’m feeling so very low.

Just give me a gentle reminder,

That it’s in the valleys I grow.

Continue to strengthen me, Lord

And use my life each day

To share your love with others

And help them find their way.

Thank you for valleys, Lord

For this one thing I know

The mountain tops are glorious

But it’s in the valleys I grow!

I hope this poem has blessed you.  Maybe it will help to lighten your load & make your day a little brighter.  Thank you for sharing a little bit of time with me.  However, for now, I must go, because I should be washing clothes!

Keep your head up!

God loves optimistic people.  He wants us to have a positive outlook & bring good news & peace, rather than strife & contentions.  (Proverbs 15:18, Galatians 5:20).  When my oldest son & his girlfriend had been in a terrible car wreck, my heart was blessed to have met his girlfriend’s stepmom.  Although his girlfriend’s prognosis was very touch & go, each time I had a conversation with her stepmom, she was always very positive about her stepdaughter’s condition.  We were both doing a lot of the same things, camping out in the ICU waiting room, hearing good & bad news from the doctors, sleep deprived & hearts hurting.  However, my new friend always spoke of what good was happening, not the grim side of it.  It seemed she just refused to take something detrimental as the outcome.  She always lifted my spirits.  Her attitude was wonderful, at a time that did not appear, much hope was left.

It makes me think of Paul & Silas’s attitude when they were imprisoned.  Beginning in Acts 16:20 Paul & Silas were going through a terrible ordeal.  Not only did a crowd of people come at them for healing a demon possessed girl, their clothes were torn off of them.  They were beaten with rods.  After that, they were thrown in jail.  However, instead of looking at how bad their situation was, they looked up to God.  They were determined to not let their situation get the best of them.  They were not telling God how big their problems were.  They were telling their problems how big their God was.   When they they considered God, they were found praying & singing hymns to glorify Him in their trials. (Acts 16:25)

What an inspiring attitude!  Even when things were the worst, they still were optimistic & praised God.  The encounter I had with my new-found friend had an everlasting effect on me.  It taught me that no matter how grim reality may seem, there’s good in everything.  May we always see God’s goodness in every situation.

Isaiah 52:7  How beautiful upon the mountains

are the feet of him who brings good news,

who practices peace,

who brings glad tidings of good things,

who proclaims salvation, who says to Zion,

your God reigns.

Teenage social lesson

My teenage daughter, EA, is so cool.  She always tries to see the good in people.  She is always willing to help a friend in need…..read on….

EA has a guy friend, at school, who is super smart.  However, lacks in friends.  She says he is a nice kid, just a little socially backwards.  Being the great friend she is, she has made an agreement with him.  If he will help her with Algebra, she will help him with his social skills.  Here is how it has gone so far…

EA to intelligent friend: “First, you know how you talk to people?  Well, yeah, you know, you are just gonna have to dumb it down a lot, because nobody understands what you are saying.  And, you know how you made a 34 on your ACT?  Well, years from now, it’s just not gonna matter.  And, right now, when you tell people, it’s just makin’ everybody mad.  So, I would quit talkin’ about that, too.”

Now, I think that’s pretty sound advice from one teenager to another!

Expiration date

As I was pouring a glass of milk, the other day, I looked at the expiration date.  Then, I thought, it seems like everything now a days, has an expiration date.  Soft drinks, medicine, even canned foods give dates of when they should be used by.  It also made me think–I even have an expiration date!  Of course, only God knows when that will be.  However, I must work dilligently for Christ, until I expire!  When I do expire, I will have a home with Jesus forever.  Isn’t that wonderful?  Just knowing the prize I strive for, makes me not be so concerned about my expiration date.  I must not get stale or sour before then.  I have to be serving the Lord by faith & my works. James 2:17 reads “….faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”  I can’t stop doing good, for any reason.  May we always be aware that we have an expiration date & be prepared at all times.

Revelation 2:10 …Be faithful until death & I will give you the crown of life.

Blog fever

I just want to say I am so excited about being here!  I have had blog fever for awhile, now.  I want to tell you a few things this blog will be.  I want to share with everyone about growing up in the South.  My brother & I stayed with my grandparents after school & in the summer.  You will hear about that.  I have written devotionals through out the years.  They tell of life experiences I have had.  I have 5 kids, a daughter- in- law & a new grandson.  You will be hearing about all of that, too.  There will be samplings of recipes I grew up on & lots of fun things I hope you will enjoy relating to.  I invite you to relish with me the love & laughter of being Southern & all it means to me.  So, stay tuned for tales from a Mississippi girl, random thoughts, & comforting words from my spiritual side.  And I type all of this while I should be washing clothes!