How to handle rudeness like a boss & no fall weather for us

The other day, I came across a situation, that was somewhat uncomfortable. I was at the dollar store with my buggy full of snacks, toiletries, and other miscellaneous things. I was picking up some items to send to my deployed son-in-law. I walked up to the counter with my buggy & the man in front of me walked back in the store for something. I asked the cashier was he coming back? She said he was & I said okay & stayed in my place in line. This lady walks up beside me, then past me, then in front of me.

She said, “Thank you, hon.”

I looked at the cashier & she looked at me because clearly, I had just been passed in line without my permission. I didn’t even realize she was anywhere around until she was already in front of me. Did she not notice me? Did she figure she had less items than me so she automatically got to go 1st? Was she just flat out being rude & pushing her limit with me? I was just taken back & a smidge appalled at how dare she cut line. I was on my lunch. Was my time not just as valuable as hers?

It was at this point I thought there were some options I had here.

  1. I could pitch a duck dog fit & demand the older lady & her can of potted meat get behind me in line.
  2. I could “accidently” lose control of my buggy & run her over.
  3. I could ask the cashier to call a manager & demand the lady be escorted from the premises for having manners of a dish rag.
  4. I could shake my head, smile with my lips pursed tightly, & look the other way.

Fortunately, I chose #4. Which ended up being the best for everybody. Because I got my goods & went back to work. I didn’t have to waste my time teaching someone, not wanting to listen, a lesson. I didn’t have to be escorted out of the store for whooping up on a rude old lady. Was this a really big problem? Or was it just an inconvenience?

Ephesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. (NKJV)

Y’all, every problem creates an opportunity. This time, it allowed me the chance to practice my manners & LORD HAVE MERCY, just let it go. What if this lady had just gotten bad news & wasn’t sure what to do?  What if it made her so preoccupied that she didn’t realize what she was doing? What if she was in a hurry to get back home to a sick family member? What if her life were just in such pain & chaos she was just ready to get what she needed & get out of the store? I didn’t know. It sure didn’t give me a free pass to give her a piece of my mind. In which I have heard my precious Mama Boyce say, (Upon trying to break up a mere disagreement between me and my brother, as young’uns at her house.)

“Don’t you be actin’ sucha way.”

Then, she would raise her eyebrows & you knew she meant it.

Colossians 3:12-13  Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering;bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. (NKJV)

Just know this, people are hurting. Someone may have just gotten some news back from the doctor, that was not what they had hoped for. Someone may have just lost a person that meant a lot to them. Somebody could have just lost a job, their house, or their kids in a divorce. We all go through things we wish we didn’t have to. There are certain times, more than others, we just need people to be kind to us. It’s not necessary to prove your point all the time. Nor is it your job to correct everyone’s shortcomings. Will some people take advantage of your kindness? Probably. But if you help one person along the way, ain’t that worth it? None of us are getting out of this thing called life alive. So, why not try to make things as pleasant as possible? And seriously, are there just some rotten people in this old world, that don’t want to be nice? Absolutely.  And I have found those people need kindness most of all. So let’s make sure we give folks the benefit of the doubt. Because on our bad days, don’t we want the same?Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, (NKJV)

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today.  Saturday, me & my Mr. Sweetie Pants grandson decorated our porch for fall. I can’t say it was the most fun I had ever had putting pumpkins out in 90 degree weather. But hey. You can’t have everything. And apparently, this year, we can’t have cool weather in October. I hope where you are, it is beautiful fall weather.  We are enjoying all of our band time with Miss Neenee, as well. She is just blowing her trumpet & making memories. You all have a blessed week & remember to freely share kind words, love, & encouragement. Until next time I should be washing clothes.

Best day of a teen’s life. When they get their hunting license.

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What’s in your cup & remember how I told you high school was a bad idea?

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in your cup, you would have spilled tea. The point is whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, “What’s in my cup?” When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words, and reactions come out? You choose! Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness, and love for others.

Y’all. I didn’t write that above paragraph, myself. It was copied from a post I saw on Facebook. But BOY did it hit home. Did I tell you what happened to me when I went to register Miss Neenee for high school? We were inside the school. She wanted to see where her classes were. And of course I was excited to climb the stairs and walk all over kingdom come (just kidding, I was not). After my new high schooler had gotten her fill of the visions of classrooms, lockers, hall ways, & perfectly decorated bulletin boards, we headed to the car. When we walked out of the building toward the parking lot, we were greeted by 2 enthusiastic and information bearing kids.

One of the boys said to my excited new  high schooler, “Are you a trumpet player?”

In which my trumpeter replied, “Yeah.”

Then, the boy replied, “Well, your car just got hit.”

WHAT??

Evidently, I must have had that look, because here came the band director. Walking from the site of the accident toward me.

There was a short conversation between the band director & I. He briefly told me a young man accidently backed into my car. He said he the young man was very sorry & had social anxiety. Basically, the kid was afraid I was going to come out with all fists flying, pitching a dying duck dog fit about my car. I looked down the way at the worried & scared look on the boy’s face & immediately felt bad for him. I walked down to my car with my daughter following behind me. Even though this was a situation I wish I didn’t have to deal with, I thought it was a teachable moment. As I walked up & looked at the HUGE dent in my bumper,

I looked over at the boy & said, “Are you okay?” He was so nervous.

He muttered out, “Yes ma’am. I’m really sorry.”

I said, “Don’t worry about it. We can fix cars. We can’t always fix people.” I smiled at him & you could tell he felt more at ease. Now when his dad showed up, I’m not so sure what he felt. But his dad & I exchanged pleasantries and insurance information. The law showed up to make their report & as we departed the parking lot, the young man told me again he was sorry. I let him know if this was the worst thing that ever happened to him, he would be ok. Things happen.

Was this an inconvenience? Yes. Was everyone okay? Yes. Could I have showed out and acted a fool? Probably. But what good would that have done? It wouldn’t have changed the fact my car still needed repair. But, what spilled out of my cup, that time, was forgiveness, patience, & hopefully kindness. Do I always act on my best behavior? Probably not. I am human & sometimes I do say & act in a way that my mama would be ashamed of. However, I can get it together every so often, more so than on other occasions.

What’s in your cup today? Is it filled with hate, spite, & an unforgiving spirit? When you are shaken, does your cup spill out bitterness & sharp words? Or does it spill out thankfulness, compassion, & warmhearted actions?

I Peter 3: 8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; (NKJV)

Are your ways prideful & judgmental? Or are they filled with mercy & grace?

Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.(NKJV)

Romans 14:13 Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother’s way.(NKJV)

Since I have gotten a little older, I seem to be of the opinion, kindness needs to be deliberate & practiced ALL THE TIME. You never know what someone might be going through. And believe me I have never came across anyone without problems. You may be the only light they see in a world of gloom & doom. This world needs love. Why don’t we make an effort to show the Christ like love we would want shown to us? Life is a circle. What comes around, goes around. You get what you give out. So, next time someone gives you a short answer, just smile & kindly thank them. They may have just gotten some really bad news. Or they could just have their cup filled with some stinkin’ rotten things. Either way, your kind heart might just change their way of thinking. If not, you will be still be doing the right thing.

Like my Mamaw used to say, “Don’t act ugly.”

Y’all, can I say we have just been enjoying the fire out of Miss Neenee being in the band? This means we have a reason to go to the football games again. And boy do we love it. We did however make mention how we miss my son-in-law there. He is deployed right now. He loves sports and competition and yelling for our team. So much, that my daughter may or may not have to tell him to sit down before he gets thrown out of the game. He gets a bit riled up. And we love him for it. I hope your weather has been pleasant. Someone said fall is beginning. I’m not sure where they are, but here in northeast MS it is still HOT AS BLUE BLAZES. I hope you all have a relaxing weekend. We will be at the ballgame tonight cheering on our little trumpet player. Until next time I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

 

Look at that game face.Almost got her to smile.Yes this is a HUGE football helmet with smoke billowing out of it. We are just fancy like that.

Football good times.

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Helpful hints for a good spiritual spring cleaning

Well, it’s that time again. Time for a good spring cleaning! When I think about spring cleaning, I think about my house. My windows need washing, the rugs need cleaning, the ceiling fans need dusting, & the air conditioner filters need replacing. Y’all, I am just getting tired thinking about all of it!

Just think about it though.

Does our inner man need a spring cleaning, too?

What if we made a conscience effort to get the cob webs out of our hearts? What if we swept jealousy & comparing ourselves to others straight out the door? What would our God given houses be like if we just flat out wiped out hate and filled it back up with love? Like the love I have for chocolate gravy & biscuits.

James, the brother of Jesus,  talks about this in

James 1:21 Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. (NKJV)

Peter mentions it, as well, in

I Peter 2:1 Therefore, laying aside all malice, all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and all evil speaking,

And I can’t go without including the fruit of the Spirit (notice this says “fruit” as in singular, as in one-which means all of these beautiful qualities go together. As in you need to have all of these, not just pick which one you want to do & leave the rest out.)

Galatians 5: 22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. (NKJV)

Let’s take a look at ourselves (me included, because I need it more than anybody!). Let’s make sure we have the most important aspect in our lives first, LOVE. Then, I really believe the rest will fall into place.

Matthew teaches in Matthew 12, that if we get rid of something bad in our lives, we need to immediately fill it back up with something good. If we don’t we chance more bad coming back into our hearts.

43 “When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. 44 Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. 45 Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first. So shall it also be with this wicked generation.”(NKJV)

Whew! Spring cleaning is hard! Especially when you have to get rid of things like being unforgiving & having bitterness in your heart. Things like this is like old baggage you have tucked back in the corner of a closet & forgotten about. It’s been around so long, that you hardly notice it’s holding you up in your walk with God.

Ephesians 4:31-32 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. (NKJV)

How about we all get to work on spring cleaning? I know I sure need it. I’m so glad you stopped by today. I presented the good news to Miss Neenee last night that school would be out next month. As in NEXT MONTH. She was just pleased as punch to know she would have a break before long. Come on summer!! I hope you have a blessed week. As for me, I have got to be going because I should be washing clothes.

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You missed the point & the dreaded time change

 

miss-the-pointHow many times have you seen people in life that miss the point? While they may be well meaning, their words just don’t help the cause?  I have, first hand, seen people who would rather lash out & “let somebody have it” rather than extend a hand to help.  I have seen those who get in a tiz & their knee jerk reaction is to tell somebody off.  I have actually had someone tell me before, when I have tried to help them see their anger was not beneficial, say to me, “Well, at least they are going to know what I think.”  Really?  In situations when people are maybe not making the best choices & they need our help- they really don’t care what you think.  Being angry with someone for their mistakes & expressing such to them is missing the point.  I know we are all human & want what’s best for our loved ones.  And yes, sometimes you may want to just shake them & say, “What were you thinking??”  All the lecturing & yelling & bawling & squalling will not change the fact that this person needs our love, not our tempers flaring.  I truly believe if we reach out a hand in love, we will get a much more positive response than if we are throwing a hissy fit.  We need to be showing Jesus through us.  How can we do that if we are angry & ranting & raving?  We can’t.  We all make mistakes.  We all miss the point, from time to time, to show Christ’s love.  If we have done that, we should pray & ask the other person to forgive us.  The apostle Paul talks about true love in I Corinthians 13.

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love. (NKJV)

I love this girl dressed up for Halloween as "Queen of the Nerds."

I love this girl dressed up for Halloween as “Queen of the Nerds.”

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This chapter is full of useful & necessary information on how to treat others. From what I can tell, these are commandments.  Not suggestions.  Let’s be sure we treat them as such.  Instead of beating someone over the brow with our version of what they should be doing, we all need to try speaking kindly & understanding where they are coming from with their decisions.  A lot of times, I can be more tenderhearted if I know why someone is doing what they are doing.  Believe me, there are just some people who need guidance.  Even & especially grown men & women.  And sadly, some still will not change, even though you go to them in love.  That’s not your fault.  You have done your part & done it correctly.  Continue to show them love & keep them in prayer.  Hopefully, they will turn to the Lord before it’s too late.  But listen, don’t worry about this.  If the Lord could not turn everyone’s heart to the right thing, what makes you think you can?  It is what it is.  Do your part, with love & move on.

One more thing, you may be asking, “What is “the point” you speak of?”  When I refer to missing the point, I am meaning this is your prime opportunity to show Jesus & His love through us.  Please, please, please, do your best to not miss the point!

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I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. We have had a nasty stomach bug going around our house.  I have been able to avoid it, so far.  Well, you know there are somethings a stomach bug won’t even chance. Ha. Hope your week has been full of fall weather & pumpkin spice.  Oh yeah.  And the time changed.  What about that daylight savings time that just jumped up & ran off?  Still. Not. Over. It.   And just to add to your anxiety, Christmas is only 7 weeks away.  Love you like candy canes & chocolate covered cherries! Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

I possibly relate to this a little too much.

I possibly relate to this a little too much.

Back to school- seriously summer has bit the dust

back to school

My Miss Neenee went back to school yesterday.  As in yesterday.  What about summer?  Where did that guy go?  I have to admit, it still has not really sunk in that summer 2015 has come to a screeching halt.  I mean, there were so many things we were going to do this summer.  For the past several years, we have done one of those summer bucket lists.  Of course with school deciding to slip up on us like this, we barely made a dent in that list.   Ya’ll time is not stopping for anybody.

I always like to look around & see what cute things other bloggers have come up with for back to school.  Here are my best finds:

free printable morning routine chartBecause who doesn’t need a morning routine??

free alphabet printableWhat an adorable printable to give to a teacher or to use for yourself.

backtoschoollunchboxjokes30daysMy Miss Neenee loves a lunchbox joke.  I’m sure your sweeties will, too.  Just print these off & slip them in their lunchbox.

Also, on thirtyhandmadedays.com there are a plethora of ideas for back to school organizing.  Just looky here-

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I also talked to my Miss Neenee & my sweet Wednesday night Bible class students about kindness.  I told them how important it was to be Christ like & show kindness to everybody.  Especially those that don’t deserve it.  They need it the most.  We also talked about bullying.  I asked them what should they do if they see somebody being mean to someone else?

One sweet girl said, “Go tell a teacher.” 

I also reminded them they could take up for the person getting bullied, too.  That sometimes will make a bully stop in their tracks.  No one admitted to ever being bullied, however, I wanted it to be fresh on their minds.  That way, they would be able to react the way Jesus wanted them to.be kindEphesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

I sure hope you are having a good week.  It has been a smidge busy around our house.  With school starting & whathaveyou.  I have also been shelling peas, making some pickles, & putting up green beans just like it’s my job.  I may make a good homemaker before long.  You just never can tell about those things.  green beans

My little green bean snapper

My little green bean snapper

Also, this year while Miss Neenee was selling Girl Scout cookies, I made the executive decision to buy some & put them in the freezer.  I have been partaking of some of those here of late.  After a stressful day at work, one does not realize the power a Samoa can have over you.  My pre-Girl Scout cookie weight was a little more easy on the eyes than what I have had going on as recently as this morning when I got on the scales & to my dismay decided maybe I should give up on the Girl Scout cookies.  I perhaps may need to give them to my daughter.  She’s eating all kinds of strange things lately because she’s having another BABY!  You heard me right.  Another sweet thing to cuddle & spoil & kiss & hug.  To say we are delighted is truly an understatement.  So, now you know what all is going on with me.  I hope you have a wonderful weekend.  Until next time, I will be going, because I should be washing clothes.

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Taylor Swift: Nice or needs attention?

Have you seen the video of Taylor Swift giving away gifts to her fans for Christmas?  She has been dubbed as Taylurking. It is where she has sort of stalked some of her fans on social media.  Then, learned what they like, where they work, go to school, what their kids & friends, names are, etc.,.   She bought presents for these people in regards to what their interests are.  The video has been circling around the internet.  I saw it shared by someone on Facebook.  If you missed it, you can see it here.

I watched it.  My first knee jerk reaction was, “That was nice of her.”  Then, I got to thinking about it.  Being the first class skeptic I am , I have a few questions.

1. Who filmed this?  Obviously, it was intentional.  Not just some random personal videoing going on.

2. Why did this individual/individuals video it?  Was it just for fun or entertainment?  Then, they got the idea, “Let’s make a video for the internet so everybody can see how amazing Taylor really is?”

3. Why did Taylor feel the need to display her kindness?  Albeit, this was a well thought out, good hearted, thing to do, why toot your own horn, Taylor?

4. Did Taylor feel the need to have praise for what she did?

5. Am I looking at this all wrong?

6. Why would she have not done these kind deeds & kept this as a special memory of friendships with her fans?

I saw a comment by someone on the Facebook post stating Taylor had recently been to a children’s hospital.  They said she spent more than normal celebrity time with the patients & no one knew about it.  Ok.  What’s wrong with that?

This is what Jesus says about doing for others:

Matthew 6:1-5

Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them. Otherwise you have no reward from your Father in heaven. Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly. (NKJV)

I am not a Taylor Swift hater.  As a matter of fact, I like her music.  I think she made a very strategic move going from Country to Rock.  It was inevitable.  To my knowledge, she has not publically twerked or sung songs about kissing girls & liking it.  So, she has that much about her.  I can let my 11 year old listen to her, without much worry.  But, this video stunt is kinda like being classy.  If you have to tell someone you are classy, then are you?  If you have to make a video about what a big heart you have, then do you have a big heart?  Someone help me get through this.  Any insight is welcome.

I hope you are having a great week.  Whoever is praying for rain, in northeast Mississippi, please stop.  We are good.  Until the sun shines again, I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.

pdaMe & my girl Taylor PDAin’ it up.

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The best gift you can give to your kids & how it’s never too late

Santa & Neely

When I think of Christmas, I think of kids.  I don’t know about you, but Christmas was always a special time at our house.  Homemade cookies, candy, parties, toys, & family were the best memories I have.  As a child growing up, I always had the security of a good family.  I never knew what it was like to go to bed hungry or not know I was loved beyond belief.  I was very blessed.  It humbles me to know what a wonderful childhood I had.  It could have very easily been another way.  You don’t pick who you are born to.  Thankfully, I was born to two precious people, who had a way with a feisty little girl.

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At this time of year, I get to thinking about what would be the best presents, for my kids, at Christmas. What special memory can I give them about this time of year?  I came across this article & wanted to share it with you.  It is the best gift you can possibly give your children all year long.

We should conduct our homes so that children will remember:

  • Daddy & Mama were kind to one another (Ephesians 4:32).
  • Home was a happy place, governed by the law of love (Psalm 119:165).
  • Each child was treated fairly and required to obey his or her parents (Ephesians 6:1-4).
  • Sunday was a day of worship (Acts 20:7).
  • The Bible, God’s law, settled everything (Psalm 33:4).
  • Home was a place where friendships were dear, but truth was dearer (Proverbs 18:24, 23:23).
  • Although mama & daddy worked hard, they took time to read the Bible daily & pray (Hebrews 10:22).

There is still time for many of us to create good memories for our children & grandchildren.  One of the best things I remember growing up, was how special church was to my family.  At the church we went to, my Daddy was the preacher, my Mama a Sunday School teacher, my Papaw a song leader, who they also called on to pray & serve the Lord’s table, my Mamaw cooked for those in need, was at every service (with the rest of us), & loved our church family dearly.  I had aunts, uncles, & cousins that were also serving the congregation.  It’s funny, I never really thought of this being one of my Daddy’s jobs.  It was just my life & I have been so blessed to have lived it.  Me & my brother did have some requirements.  (Some of which were perhaps a smidge challenging to an active/high spirited/could not keep her mouth shut/curious type child).

We were to be attentive. 

We were to be dressed properly (hair combed, teeth brushed, & in our Sunday best). 

We were to be cordial & kind to others. 

And never, ever, ever were we allowed to go to the bathroom close to the end of Daddy’s sermon. 

Doing this would possibly create a need to walk back to our seat while the invitation song was being sung.  That was Daddy’s moment to help those that needed prayer, baptizing, or other spiritual assistance.  My Mama was not going to interfere with one of her kids walking up through there, appearing to come forward. (We sat on the front bench.)  So, she made sure we went to the restroom & got a brief drink from the water fountain in between Sunday School & Worship Service.  I haven’t had to have therapy or counseling due to this, so I’m sure it was just an inconvenience we lived through.  As a matter of fact, it taught us to watch what was going on & be aware of other people’s feelings.  Not just a great memory, but good upbringing.  Sometimes at church, I see kids & adults walking around during the invitation song.  I’m like, “Wow, my Mama would have never had that.”

We may not have had the very best of everything life had to offer.  But we had a stable, loving family.    That’s what I strive to provide for my own kids & grandkids.  Is it perfect?  No, but they know they are loved & we are here to support them in all the ups & downs of life.  That’s more memorable than any Ipad, Dr. Dre’s Beats, or 4 wheeler.***

 

I do hope you were raised with wonderful memories at Christmas.  If not, it’s not too late to be the person who makes special memories for others.  Children are a blessing from God.  We should always treat them as such.  That means not letting them by with everything in the book, teaching them to be respectful, & honest.  However, that starts with us, first.  My prayer today is that you will have the courage & braveness of heart to do right & good.  Not just for others sake, but for your own, as well. I know of some adults, who as children, did not have a regal upbringing.  However, now their parents have come around & taken care of their own problems.  They have become wonderful grandparents & not to mention a great support to their kids.  It’s never too late.

Wall Paper by Thomas Kinkade

 

I hope you are having a wonderful & magical holiday season.  We are ramping up for a big couple of days at our house.  There will be family visiting, kids squealing in delight, & we will be cooking.  A lot.  It goes without saying, my usual New Year’s resolution of losing weight will be on my list.  As for now, I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.

Mr. Sweetie Pants having his cake batter & banana, too- in his undies, nonetheless.

Mr. Sweetie Pants having his cake batter & banana, too- in his undies, no less.  That’s how we roll.

 

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Parts of this was taken from a House to House, Heart to Heart bulletin.

***On a side note, I am not trying to be disrespectful to those who buy expensive gifts for their kids.  I am just saying all those things can break, be stolen, or wear out.  The things you instill in your kids can never be taken away from them.  Just a thought.

 

Kindness from a 5th grader & why is it Thanksgiving already?

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The other morning, while my Miss Neenee was eating breakfast, she posed a question to me.

“Mama, if you have $17 how much more do you need for it to be $25?”

Seriously, I don’t need this kind of stuff that early in the morning.  But, I tried.  I looked around for my phone.  I obviously needed to consult my calculator. My calculator doesn’t care how simple the math problems are.  My calculator respects the fact I need math help.  But, my phone was still plugged up, back in my bedroom.  So, I had to take drastic measures.  I figured it out in my head. Which really made for a bad morning & by the way, made my head hurt.

I said,

“Probably about $8.  Why?  Who needs $25?”

Then, she begins to explain that she didn’t think a boy, in her class at school, had enough money to go on a field trip with everyone.  She said her & her bestie decided they would try to help pay for him to go.  She said the money had to be turned in by tomorrow.  So, today they were going to figure out how much money they had between them.

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My heart melted right there over the ham sandwiches I was making. You know, 5th grade has been hard, so far.  They are changing classes & have different teachers all throughout the day.  The kids are getting more responsibilities.  The kids are maturing.  They are a bit dramatic & wearing their sassy pants for sure.  I worry & want Miss Neenee to keep her head on straight.  Be her own person & not get caught up with all the goings on around her.   But somehow, she always comes around with her kind heart.

 

The apostle Paul instructed the church at Ephesus in

Ephesians 4:31-32

32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. (NKJV)

 

Miss Neenee & her friend are definitely working on having the Fruit of the Spirit:

Galatians 5:22-23

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. (NKJV)

 

I just pray she can keep a pure heart.  Kids will be kids.  I am not a perfect parent.  However, I believe the main ingredient in the recipe of raising kids is this:

 

Proverbs 22:6 

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. (NKJV)

 

That means I have some responsibility to my kids.  I have to keep my own heart clean.

 

Psalms 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. (NKJV)

 

Do I fail?  Sure, but Jesus knows I am doing my best to remain faithful.  (Revelation 2:10) That is what is important- remaining in a good standing with Jesus.  My prayer is not only for my own children, but for your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or any small children close to you.  For them to understand the importance of being kind & loving a great God.  We are all in this together.  Whether you want to admit it or not.  We are responsible for helping each other.  That’s what the Lord would want.

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Thank you so much for stopping by today.  I love it when you take time to visit.  We had some snow last night.  Of course, we were all in a panic.  This morning, by the time we made it out the door, there was none to be seen anywhere.  On another note, has anyone told you next week is Thanksgiving??  As in, not this week, but next week?  My sweetie and I have already been contemplating the turkey. This year, I’m afraid we may just out do ourselves.  We shall see.   I hope you have a great rest of the week.  As for me, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

And don't get me started about how I am tired of seeing Christmas trees up before Thanksgiving.  I'm with the turkey on this one.

And don’t get me started about how I am tired of seeing Christmas trees up before Thanksgiving. I’m with the turkey on this one.

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Making the decision to be kind & I need a new microwave

Decisions, decisions. We all have to make them.  Sometimes decisions can be hard.  Evidently it was for the sky this morning.  It could not decide if it was going to storm or if the sun was going to shine.

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If you look closely, you can see the sun was trying to shine. But, we were driving right into some ugly looking clouds.  Strange, I know.  With the sky being so indecisive this morning, it made me think about a story, my Daddy has always told about my Papa Clyde.  There was a time, he had a chance to make a life altering decision.  You will be very surprised at what he did.

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My Papa Clyde was a sharecropper. He & my Mama Boyce had 10 children.  They obviously had to make the most of their earnings.  However, they were always willing to share what they had with others.  One time my Papa Clyde started to notice the fuel in his farm tank was running low.  He would get more fuel added in, then before he could turn around, the level was back down.  He had an idea of what was going on.  So, he waited & after dark, he took his post out by the fuel tank.  Before long, one of his neighbors wandered up the dirt path, with a gas can & hose.  Papa Clyde sat there & watched as the guy started to siphon fuel out.  When the time was right, Papa Clyde walked up to the man.  The man was obviously startled.  The man immediately started apologizing to my grandfather.  My grandfather said,

”Look you are going to have to stop this.”

 The man regrettably agreed,

“I know Mr. Clyde, I am so sorry. I won’t steal no more of your gas again.” 

Papa Clyde looked sorta puzzled & said,

“I mean yer gonna hafta quit siphonin’ this out. You could get hurt doin’ that.” 

The man didn’t know what to think.  Papa Clyde said,

“Looky here.  This is the spout.  Let me see yer can.” 

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With that, Papa Clyde took his gas can & showed him how to operate the fuel tank.  After he filled up his can, he handed it back to the man & said,

“Now that you know how to get it out, just help yourself, anytime you need it.” 

Needless to say, Papa Clyde did not have any problems with this man stealing gas again.  Ever.

I have told that story to several different people. I have had some say,

 “I would have shot anybody trying to steal from me.” 

My grandfather did not choose that.  That day he decided kindness was the best medicine.  It puts me in mind of how Elisha, in II Kings 6: 8-23, handled the Syrians.

The Syrians were a bad bunch of people. They were trying to go to war against Israel.  Elisha would have none of it.  He had an idea.  First off, when the Syrians surrounded the city, he asked the Lord to blind them.

II Kings 6:

18 So when the Syrians came down to him, Elisha prayed to the Lord, and said, “Strike this people, I pray, with blindness.” And He struck them with blindness according to the word of Elisha.(NKJV)

Next, he led the army to Samaria. v.19

Once there, Elisha asked the Lord to make them see again. When the soldiers regained their sight, the king of Israel asked Elisha could he kill them.

21 Now when the king of Israel saw them, he said to Elisha, “My father, shall I kill them? Shall I kill them?”(NKJV)

 However, Elisha has another plan.  Elisha chooses kindness.  He told the king to make a great feast for them.  After that, Elisha sent them back home.  Do you know what happened after that?  They never darkened Israel’s door step again.

23 Then he prepared a great feast for them; and after they ate and drank, he sent them away and they went to their master. So the bands of Syrian raiders came no more into the land of Israel. (NKJV)

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Don’t you imagine it took some courage for Elisha & my Papa Clyde to stand up to people who were wronging them? I would think it would take a level of maturity, that is not seen often enough, & a love for your fellow man to react in kindness. I have to admit, I am not sure I would have reacted in love & kindness in either of those situations.  However, with these 2 wonderful examples I have, I hope to be reminded of their mercy, kindness, & forgiveness, when someone treats me without regard.  You have heard

“a little bit of  kindness goes a long way.”

Well, today, my friend, you have seen where it did.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today & listen to me ramble about making wise decisions.   I hope you are having a wonderful week.  Mine will get better when I get a new microwave.  Mine has tore plumb up!  We have missed the clock on it more than anything.  My husband has threatened to sit his alarm clock on top of it.  Until I get to shop for a microwave, (which will be more decisions for me)  I should be going because I should be washing clothes.

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Do you want a piece of me? & what a wonderful life it is…..

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As I get older, my life gets more full & blessed.  I am so thankful for the people in my life.  I am so glad our family is close knit & loving.  Even though my daughter is married, with a baby & my middle daughter has a busy life, we still can’t hardly go to town without calling each other to see if the other one wants to go.  Just the other day, I asked my 10 year old daughter if she ever felt like I didn’t give her enough attention.  You know I got these grandbabies, now, that we just gush over.  Then, the older girls, my 2 sons, my daughter in law, my sweet husband & I try to keep up with my Daddy, as well.  I work full time, teach a Bible class at church, try to keep a house, cook, clean (sorta) & sometimes, after all that, I feel like she may get a little left behind.  But when I asked her if she felt left out, she looked at me in utter surprise.

She said,

“No, I love my life.  I couldn’t imagine it any other way.”   

Whew,nailed it.

Isn’t that what we all strive with our kids? We just want them to feel safe, loved, & well, happy.  Now, ask her how happy she is when she can’t keep Mr. Sweetie Pants out of her room messing with all her stuff & you may get another answer!

Nonetheless, with my big family, something is always going on.  Ne’er a dull moment.  My oldest daughter got her degree in May (Yay!)  She has gone to work for a school district.  They had a 2 day kindergarten camp with the kids to get them ready for the school year.  She said there was one little boy that was a mess.  On the first day, he kept asking her,

 “Miss K.K. do you want a piece of me?”

 She kindly reassured him, she did not.

On Tuesday she finally had to get on to him.  She said,

“If you don’t stop doing that, you are going to have to come stand beside me & hold my hand.  Do you want to have to come hold my hand?” 

He sweetly replied, “Maybe.”

Looks like she will have her hands full & heart full by the end of the school year!

I am so proud of my daughter & her love of children.  Her grandmother loved children, too.

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Jesus had encounters with children.

Matthew 19:13

Then little children were brought to Him that He might put His hands on them and pray, but the disciples rebuked them. (NKJV)

 

Jesus knew the value of children.

Matthew 19:14

But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” (NKJV)

 

 

We should be ever mindful of these little fellows.  They have an innocence & trustful, loving, heart just like we should have.  Those are the kinds of things that will get us a 1st class ticket to be with Jesus.

I am so glad you came by today.  I hope your week has been full of good days. If you have not had the grandest of days I want to share this quote I saw this week:

You were born for a purpose,

You are here for a purpose.

When live knocks you down,

Remember your purpose.- Billy Cox

 

Now, go out & make it a great day!  As for me, I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.