5 things to do when someone tells you to just get over it.

Have you ever had someone to tell you to just get over it? I have a couple of issues with that. It may take me a minute, but just stay with me & hopefully, I won’t butcher this up too much.

Sometimes, in life, I firmly believe there are things you just don’t have to get over. Take for instance a loved one passing away. That is one of the main things in my life, I deal with, is missing my sweet mama, my salt of the earth grandparents, & my in-laws (who were the best people in the entire world). This is a day in & day out pain that I deal with. However, I do my best not to let it overcome me. My husband & I talk about things my mother in law would have said if she had been here while her great grandchildren were. She would have loved things they do & say. I make mention of my daughter’s love for cooking to be purely a fantastic genetic trait, that was passed down from my mama, her Granny & her great grandmothers. Their love for all of us, their good advice, & examples of Christian living, well, those thoughts live with me every day. And thank God for that. I won’t ever get over it.

What about the blood that Jesus shed on the cross for me? I hope I don’t ever get over that. I won’t ever be able to repay the Lord for what He’s done for me & my family. When I think about what the Lord has done for us, I feel so humbled. We have never been forsaken or felt alone – for long anyway. Because there’s a peace that passes all understanding, that well, I don’t understand. I just know that is one of the benefits of Jesus loving me & me obeying Him.

I read an article, the other day about how to get your kids to behave. Like I really need to know about that, huh? It said, when you want a child to do something specifically, you need to tell them how to do it. Instead of saying, “Watch out, you are going to fall.” You would say to a kid that was standing in a chair jumping up & down & screaming: “Sit down on your bottom and be quiet.” That may sound a little common sense worthy. But think of it y’all. How many times do we say things to people, that we want a certain outcome, but we don’t tell them how to do it? So instead of thinking, “Why don’t they just get over ______________? Fill in the blank with anything you wish here- their divorce, their money problems, their relationship problems, theirselves- maybe they just don’t know how.

So, how do we help others or help ourselves? I have a little list of things, I try to apply, that helps me to make it through:

  1. Pray- I know, I know. That’s all anyone ever says is pray about it. Well, that’s not bad advice. Here lately I’ve been doing a lot of that about certain areas of my life. Time in prayer is never wasted. I Thessalonians 5: 16-18  Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. (NKJV)
  2. Listen & pay attention- If you stop & take time to listen to what the Lord is saying to you, through His Word, you may be pleasantly surprised. The other day, I was talking to a co-worker about my Dad being sick. He was reminding me his wife was in charge of a rehab/nursing home facility & that if he had to have physical therapy, it was a good place to go. While we were talking, my phone rang. It was the case worker at the hospital saying the doctor had put in orders for my Dad to go to rehab & did I know where he would like to go? WELL YES I DID. Some of the best things in the world have been given to us quietly. So pay attention to the little things going on. Those are sometimes the big things. I John 3:20 For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things.(NKJV)
  3. Be social. Sometimes we just need people, that love us, to be around. You need to be able to reach out to others. Sometimes just being with folks you can laugh with & that make you laugh is extremely good medicine for the soul. Go out to eat with your family. Ask some friends to go to the movies. Prepare for hard days by planning to be with your people. Talk to them about how things are playing out for you & that you have a hard time going on. If they are your real friends & it is family that truly loves you, they will be there. Hands down. No matter what. Proverbs 18:24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (NKJV)
  4. Realize you can’t do it without Jesus. It’s so heartbreaking to see people try to live this crazy life without the Lord. His presence & guidance is the best thing in the world. If you read & study His Word, you will get answers. Trust me on this one. You may have to be patient. You may have to wait. But that’s okay. Because God is always working for our good. John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. (NKJV)
  5. Count your blessings. It’s hard to be discouraged & depressed if you are thinking about all the Lord has done for you. Just take a few minutes & think about how blessed you are. Even with all the bad things going on & the hurt & the chaos in the world, we as still so, so, blessed. Luke 6:38 Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”(NKJV)

Y’all life is so complicated sometimes. But there’s One that will take you just as you are. In your weak & broken down spirit, He will take you & comfort you. Right this minute, if you needed someone, do you have that person, you know without a doubt you could call on & they would be there for you? You don’t have to have a large group of people. One will do. Now, can you be that person for someone, as well? Make those your people. Because you matter to them & they matter to you. That’s one of the Lord’s way of taking care of you here. He gives us our people.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. 2019 has been a little crazy, so far. My Dad’s health is pretty touch & go right now. He had a fall back about a month ago. From that, it’s just been one thing after another for him.  If you get a chance, just keep him in your prayers. On another note we have a brand spanking new grandgirl! She is just gorgeous, of course. We got to be with family & friends all through the holidays. So, life is pretty good. Until next time I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.

photo credit: Pinterest

Mr. Sweetie Pants- oh how boring life would be without this cutie!

Miss Neenee & Livie

Me & Livie Leigh

If there is a better big brother in the world, I don’t want to know about it.

Big brother visits are the best.

Love all of these faces.

 

 

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And just like that, summer was gone & love your people

We are right in the middle of being in the swing of things for school this year. Miss Neenee has plenty to keep her busy. She is cheering this year. We are so excited! Except that she has to miss band for the 1st semester.  However, 2nd semester, trumpet section, watch out.

She has had some spirit days at school where they dress up, appropriately, nonetheless, for the theme.  This was crazy hair day.

She had a bird’s nest made of hair (aka a bun).

They had a dance. And guess what? Mr. Sweetie Pants attended, too. He was just as cute, as the day is long, to watch dancing with all the “big girls”.

It was a black light dance, thus the freshly made glow in the dark t-shirts & face paint.

We went to the circus with the grands. They were so excited. I asked what their favorite part was & hands down, it was the dog that did tricks! Nevermind the blurry picture. There was LOTS of energy & not being able to be still in this photo. Oh & a Grand that can’t take good pictures.

We came across Batman, Spiderman, a tiger, & a puppy dog at the circus.

On Labor Day we had a fish fry. This young man had a really good time. He told lots of tales and entertained the dickens out of everyone, per his usual.

This man is full of entertainment. Lots and lots of entertainment.

I Thessalonians 3:12  

And may the Lord make you increase and abound in love to one another and to all, just as we do to you,

I thank God daily for the full life I have. We are truly blessed to be surrounded by people we love. There is really no greater joy in life. I pray the Lord will also make your love BIG for your people, too.  Until next time, I should be washing clothes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Father’s Day is Sunday

Hey y’all. Wanted to stop by & remind you that Sunday is Father’s Day. I hope you are fortunate to get to spend time with your dad this weekend. I know if you are not still blessed to have your dad, you will have him on your mind. I hope you get the chance to honor the fathers in your life. Here are some things for your Father’s Day entertainment.

Click here for that funny video of the little girl who doesn’t want to say Happy Father’s Day.

 

Here are some Father’s Day posts I have done in the past:

Hats off to some of the greatest Dads

Happy belated Father’s Day & distractions

Happy Father’s Day

Daddy performing Elizabeth & Nick’s wedding ceremony. This is one of my favorite pictures of all time.

 

photo creds: http://www.funnymemes.com, http://www.nbc.com,www.pinterest.com

This too shall pass, maybe like a kidney stone, but it will pass…..

March is here, y’all! With that, Shannon over at Sweet Blessings has another precious scripture writing plan. March’s writing plan is about Grace. 

a-grace-scripture-writing-plan-englishJust thinking about grace made me think how much the Lord blesses us. A couple of weeks ago, I had some kidney stones or 3. Then, my Daddy had a spell with his heart, that put him in the hospital for a few days. Kidney stone pain & worrying about your Daddy pain can be pretty rough. And I know you are wondering how the Lord is blessing us with all of that. Well, with my Daddy’s heart problems we found out it was a warning. It was the calm before the storm. The doctor said it was just a precursor to a major stroke. However, since he had this set back, it got his attention to pay better mind to what he has going on. Because it is serious! He’s made some changes & is on the road to recovery. We are so grateful & thankful the Lord has given us the chance to get back on the right path health wise. I have to remember when I have trials, there have been so many good things that have happened in my life. We have to take the bad with the good.

Job 2:10 …Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” (NKJV)

The Lord has always been in the second chance business. But more so than not, with the gospel. We had a teenager obey the gospel & be baptized Sunday night at church. It just made my heart happy for this young boy. He will never know more peace & contentment than he will know with the Lord. The Lord gives us lots of chances to get our hearts right. He listens to our prayers. He is with us during pain & when we need comfort. Things can sometimes seem hopeless, however, nothing in life is permanent. Just know, no matter what is going on in your life, it’s going to pass. If you have fallen on hard times & want to give up, don’t. Always know, if you are praying, God’s working on it.

James 4:14 whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. (NKJV)

It’s going to pass. If things are going good & nothing but rainbows & fluffy clouds are hanging around you. Enjoy it. It will pass, too. Just know no matter how bad things may seem, the Lord always comes in offers you a way to deal with it.

I Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. (NKJV)

I leave you with this:

  1. No matter what, this too shall pass. Perhaps like a kidney stone, but it will pass.
  2. Be on guard. You never know what direction the devil is going to come at you next.
  3. Trust God. No excuses. Just do that for me. Pretty please? You will be so glad you did.

 

So, the weather has had a mind of it’s own, obviously. Here in northeast Mississippi, it’s been 75 degrees, then 40 degrees, then raining & humid, then freezing, then 70 degrees again. All in one week. If we could have some winter weather, that would be appreciated, thank you very much. But oh well, we’ve about run out of time. Because it will be hotter than blue blazes again before you know it. Hope y’all are staying warm. Or cool, or what ever it is during a day’s time. Until next time, I should be going, because I should be washing clothes.

Don't you just hate it when this happens?

Don’t you just hate it when this happens?

Purple hull peas & teaching kids about Jesus

peasI don’t know about y’all, but my most favorite part of summer is all the fresh fruits & vegetables. We had our little container garden on our back deck.  It’s certainly, a do again.  I like having the fresh cucumbers & tomatoes.  And the fresh herbs have simply made our grilling out of this world.  My uncle called me the other day & said,

“Do you want these purple hull peas, I just picked out of the garden?”

Why yes, I reckon I do.  These are the peas that are grown in the same ground my grandparents had their garden.  So, it kinda tugs at my heartstrings. These are also the same peas Miss Neenee told me about Sunday night,

 “Mama, I was hungry, when we were at church.  All I could think about was eating peas & cornbread, when we got home.” 

I’m not saying we are properly raising our daughter, however, I just don’t know of anything else you could take away from that. Raising a proper Mississippian takes a little time and effort, and having a palate for southern cooking doesn’t hurt either.  Because we LOVE to eat.  And Miss Neenee does, too.  Thank the Lord.

aneely

We had one of the people from Lads to Leaders come speak to us at church Sunday. If you are wondering what Lads to Leaders is, it’s the largest training tool the church has for our youth.  However, I guess that’s not really right.  Adults can participate, as well.  But it’s mostly youth driven.  Bro. Roy Johnson talked about doing all we can to keep our kids in church.  He said statistics show that at a young age children make up their minds about the Lord, Bible, & church.  And a lot of it has to do with who is responsible for their upbringing.  I’m not talking about the parents that don’t take their kids to church.  I’m talking about the parents that have the kids at church.  Sometimes the ones who darken the door every service.  Those kids, that decide,

 ”This is not for me.”

 And by the time they get old enough for car keys, they are gone from the church.  Or when they are finally old enough to move out, from mama & daddy’s house, that is all of their church going.  Those kids, are the ones, that may have not seen mama & daddy love the church like they should have.  Those are the ones, that may have always been present, but on the car ride home heard about how it was too cold in the auditorium or too hot.  Or how long the preacher made the sermon, or did you see what kind of dress so & so had on?  Or did you notice those kids running around, babies crying, or the BIG one- Mr. Brown that sits way up front in the church building, doesn’t speak to Mr. Smith who sits all the way in the back corner of the other side, because when he was little his grandfather & the other guy’s grandfather had a disagreement.  We think.  They don’t really know about what or who.  But they can’t speak or look at each other, anyhow.  Y’all.  This really hit me hard, because I know all about this stuff.  My Daddy was the preacher, when we were growing up.  We heard everybody’s business.  But you know what?  My Daddy & Mama loved the church & taught us kids to love the church.

And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou riseth up. Deuteronomy 11:19 (KJV)

That’s what I want to teach to my kids & grandkids. I want my family to go to heaven.  However, I can’t expect my kids& grandkids to learn about the Lord, love the church, & want to be a part of something, that I don’t whole heartedly believe in.  You have heard the old saying, “Do as I say, not as I do.”  Believe me that doesn’t work here.  I just pray the Lord will see fit to help me be a good example to my kids, grandkids, & family.  I don’t ever want to be the reason to make anyone stumble.  Some may believe wealth & success comes from the world, jobs, what you own.  I would think you should feel the richest & happiest in the world if your family were faithful Christians.  Nothing beats that.

It’s August.  As in August.  Summer is on the downhill stretch.  And if you ask me how many of my summer goals I met, well, not many.  I don’t like to point fingers, but this thing called a broke foot didn’t help the cause much.  Now, don’t start gettin’ all worried.   I am fine.  It’s just a ridiculous inconvenience.  That’s all.  I hope you have had a great summer, minus the broken bones.  I have to be going now, because I should be washing clothes.

august

Stop it with the voodoo doll & I serve a great God

So whoever has the voodoo doll of me, can give it a rest at anytime.  I will publicly say I apologize for whatever I have done to upset you or cause you any grief.  Seriously.  Enough.

Normally, I don’t moan & whine on this blog.  However, since I am president & CEO of I should be washing clothes.com, I will be putting some information out there to my peeps that love & care about me, THAT HAS HAPPENED SINCE I LAST BLOGGED.

  1. On Monday last week, I was at watching Miss Neenee at basketball practice when my aunt called me & said I needed to go see about my dad.  He was at a funeral home visitation, for a classmate, & started acting strange.  To make a long story short, he was & is still having mini strokes.  He also has a blood clot in his heart.
  2. Some good information to know about Medicare is, unless you are actively in the midst of a major medical situation (having strokes is not considered major, go figure), you have a short 3 night stay in the hospital.  Then you are, O-U-T spells out goes he, on your bum.  No exceptions.
  3. We found out this delightful Medicare will allow you to go to “rehab” & stay.  Which “rehab” is a fancy word for nursing home.  They could call it the “most wonderful & magical place on the planet”, it’s still a nursing home.  So, Daddy is currently in “rehab” for therapy.
  4. My daughter had her baby! Yay babies!  He is just a little bundle of joy.  He is as sweet as can be.  His big sister LOVES to hold him.  Hopefully, we won’t find him in the washing machine, per her usual of putting things she loves in there.
  5. We got to keep my baby grandgirl whilst her mama went to have the baby. #funtimes, #canttelleverythingthathappened, #grandkidsarethebest, #grandshouseiswhereitsat
  6. Got confirmation, someone at my house, is having surgery very soon.  Not saying who it is, but he’s not looking forward to it. 😦
  7. I have the BEST family in the world.  They all have gone out of their way to help us out, with Daddy & my daughter.  It’s a true blessing to have such a close knit family.
  8. Much to my dismay, I have had to miss some work.  I also have some of the BEST co-workers in the world.  They took care of everything while I took care of my family.  Didn’t have to worry about ne’er a thing.  Insert GOOD FEELING here.
  9. There was a bomb threat, in the school district, where my daughter goes to school.  They got out early that day.    Thank the Lord she got home safe & sound & no one was hurt. Nonsense. Pure nonsense.
  10. Last night, in a whirlwind of getting ready for bed, I put some cream on my face.  I thought it was some I had used before.  However, I didn’t recall all the tingling it was doing.  I finally got it all rubbed off & today, I look like I have chicken pox.  (Or at least that’s what our custodian, at work, told me I looked like.) Painful & burning.  All day today.  While I am typing, it is burning.    That cream was promptly thrown in the garbage.  Not a fan of the “burn” cream.

So,  one may wonder, “What kind of mental state is a person in, after a week of unusual happenings?”  All I can think is at the end of the day God is in control.  Job 2:10 says Shall we indeed accept good from God & shall we not accept adversity?  I have so many blessings in my life.  Daily blessings.  I can’t forget that, while I have these other unfortunate things happening.  I am so thankful for our new grandson.  I am thankful for the knowledgeable doctors & nurses that attend to my Daddy.  I am thankful for all the friends & family that have called, texted, visited, messaged me, & just plain ol’ been there for us.  When I think of those things I think of the amazing & remarkable love of the Lord.  He has come right in & made things that seem bleak look hopeful.  For all these things I am humbled & I so treasure the great God I serve.

I hope you all have had a good week.  If not, remember, daylight’s coming.   It can’t stay dark forever.  Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

December Scripture Writing Plan & what a blessed Thanksgiving we had

christmas scripture writing plan_Page_1What a better way to start December than with a month full of scripture?  A sweet blogger has this originally on http://www.swtblessings.com. I can’t wait to get started on this.  Won’t you join me?

And too, here is a little bit of what my Thanksgiving looked like:

We started with Thanksgiving breakfast.

We started with Thanksgiving breakfast.

THanksgiving neely & livyThanksgiving dad & jw

Bud, Me, & Daddy

Bud, Me, & Daddy

Family

Family

Me & my peeps

Me & my peeps

Then, we had Thanksgiving dinner.

Then, we had Thanksgiving dinner.

Newlyweds on Thanksgiving

Newlyweds on Thanksgiving

Fruit turkey made by my oldest daughter.

Fruit turkey made by my oldest daughter.

Hope y’all had a blessed holiday.  We sure did.  Until next time I will be going because I should be washing clothes.

Photo credit http://www.swtblessings.com

Yesterday she would have been 69 & 5 things it’s changed about me

I texted my brother.  I called my Daddy.  I told Miss Neenee & my sweetie. I went by the cemetery on the way to work. Yesterday, my Mama would have been 69 years old.

Mama, Me, & Mamaw 1990

Mama, Me, & Mamaw 1990

I don’t want to get all weird with this.  Other than, her being gone has changed a lot about me.

  1. It has made me appreciate life & being with my loved ones.
Me, Mama, Mamaw, & Papaw circa 1978

Me, Mama, Mamaw, & Papaw circa 1978

2. It made me realize I am  not the boss of my health & it can falter at any time.

3. It lights a fire under me to accomplish & get done what I need to & want to today.  I’m not promised another minute to get those things done.  Mama was always mindful of the brevity of life.  She would always say before we left home,

“Get this mess up.  What if something was to happen & somebody was to come in this house?”

For shame that someone saw a coaster out of place on the coffee table.  But, that’s just how she was.  And I’m glad.  I wouldn’t have wanted her any other way.

4. Family was so important to her.  She loved & looked forward to all of our get togethers.  I have gotten closer to my family in the past several years, as well.

Mama's baby brother, Mamaw, Mama, Mama's older sister, Mama's middle brother at Christmas circa 1984

Mama’s baby brother, Mamaw, Mama, Mama’s older sister, Mama’s middle brother at Christmas circa 1984

5. She always went to church.  Even when Daddy had to dress her, pick her up & put her in her wheelchair & bring her.  It made me know if she could go to church, in her shape, there was NO reason for me not to be there.  She was a wonderful Christian example.  Because of that I have grown deeper in my faith.

Me & Mama after church circa 1995

Me & Mama after church circa 1995

Here are a couple more pictures of her in my “Mama Shrine” today.

mama young

On the back of this picture if had,"Taken on the day we walked all over the place." She was sitting on the door step washing her feet.

On the back of this picture it had,”Taken on the day we walked all over the country.” She was sitting on the door step washing her feet.

I won’t bore overly inform you with more Mama stories.  For that you can go here. I am just so thankful this ol’ world had her for 55 years.  Now the Lord has her for the rest.

Hope you are having a great day.  You know what’s Thursday!  Bring on the family & turkey.  My favorite.  Until next time , I should be washing clothes.

My week in a couple of words & my take on the latest Supreme Court antics

Miss Neenee & Mr. Sweetie Pants before church

Miss Neenee & Mr. Sweetie Pants before church

Here are some phrases I’ve used this week:

“You win some, you lose some.”

“Honey butter.  Hello there, heaven.”

  (Maybe I just thought that as I was eating my biscuit.  But, it’s totally conversation worthy.)

“I love all ya’ll.”

“You can only do, what you can do.”

“What does that even mean?”

“You have to remember, at the end of the day, God is in control.”

 

That last phrase, I find myself using it more & more.  There are so many disheartening things happening in our country right now.  There are so many wrong things happening.  However, hasn’t that been the case since the beginning of time?  We don’t live in a sinless world.  Because of that, we encounter all kinds of ungodly things.  Our associate minister brought to our attention that back in the 1970s, the Supreme Court voted to ok the killing of unborn babies.  A flag kinda pales in light of that.

About the gay marriage issue, I addressed that here.  No need to beat a dead horse to death.  I still feel the same way.  Love the sinner, not the sin.  And when I say that, I mean it.  We can stand up for something without making ourselves appear hateful & pretentious.  Really.  We can.

Colossians 4:6

Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one. (NKJV)

People with sins need forgiven.  Just like I need forgiveness.  Daily.  How can you bring someone to Christ while beating them over the head with their sin?  You can’t.  Plain & simple.  My prayer today is that we love one another the way Jesus does.  Like my Daddy says,

“Love people like the Lord does.  He loves people enough to let them go to hell if they want to.”

True dat, Daddy.

We need to know when to let go & let God.  That’s all we can do.  Hey, I think I need to add that phrase to my list up there!  We do need to be in the Word.  Reading, studying about what God says about all of this.  Please don’t just go off half cocked about something you think is right.  Be sure.

One more note, I did hear a preacher give a word of encouragement about all the happenings here lately.  It was Bro. Knoll.  He came to do a gospel meeting at Pleasant Grove church of Christ.  He said maybe all of the things going on with the flag, legalizing gay marriages, & the recent church killings was this:

“In the depths of despair people are drawn to the Lord.  Maybe one thing the Lord is trying to do is bring people together.”

Think about it.

I hope everyone had a wonderful July 4th weekend.  We perhaps cooked a lot & ate a lot.  It was spent with family & friends.  That is what truly makes me happy.  Being around my peeps & laughing til my stomach hurts.  Good times.  And these grands, ya’ll, they are too sweet.  My daughter was cutting a watermelon.  She put the knife in the top of it & Mr. Sweetie Pants yells, “I can’t look!!” & covered his eyes with his little hands.  He was so excited.  He even led “Jesus Loves Me” in Sunday School class.  He was so proud of himself.  His Grand was, too.  Until next time, ya’ll, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

 

Got to see one of our sweet cousins over the holidays.

Got to see one of our sweet cousins over the holidays.

Miss Neenee got her Starbucks on this week.

Miss Neenee got her Starbucks on this week.

And these 2 had a big announcement.  Congratulations to our EA!

And these 2 had a big announcement. Congratulations to our EA & her sweet fiancé!

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Willie & Waylon method of parenting

My brother, of whom I affectionately refer to as "Bud".

My brother, of whom I affectionately refer to as “Bud”.

 

It’s funny how everybody has opinions about how to raise kids.  Some things work for this kid.  Other tactics work for that one.  No two kids are exactly alike.  That’s for sure!  My mama, being the good Southern mother she was, had an unconventional approach to parenting.  It appears she used the “Willie Nelson/Waylon Jennings method”.  If you ain’t quite sure what in the world that is, just follow me down this rabbit trail for a bit.

Mama loved to listen to country music.  Willie & Waylon were 2 of her favorites.  The song, “Mamas Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Cowboys” was literally written about how to bring up your kids.  The lyrics go:

Mama don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Don’t let ’em pick guitars and drive them old trucks Make ’em be doctors and lawyers and such

So, that’s just what mama did. She made sure my brother was raised with all the Southern graces & hospitality that a boy could be. He did not attend cotillion classes, however, was well versed in how to act right, carry on conversations with politeness, & mind his manners at the table. His learning came from being a preacher’s kid. My mama wouldn’t have her kids carrying on like a bunch of hooligans. He was to behave & “act like he had some raisins’ ”. She was the first to tell him when his behavior was less than stellar. Many times it could be a swift smack. My mama was a smacker. So you knew what was coming if you did step out of line.  Daddy was more of a belt man.  I saw this the other day & thought, yep, more people need to be buying  & using these.

Belt

Daddy did use the occasional ping pong paddle.  But, low & behold, it must not have done any permanent damage to Bud because, ya’ll, he grew up to be a lawyer. Just like Willie & Waylon used to sing about. And mama was so proud of him. She wouldn’t boast of it much, because, you know, not everybody’s boy got to be a lawyer. She didn’t want people to think for a second ANY of us had become high falootin’. (Because mama didn’t raise him to think he was better than anybody else. It must have really worked. He has passed that attribute on to his kids. Who are both a hoot & a half, but are very grounded in life.) I would say, if done right, the Willie & Waylon parenting method has some salt to it. For my brother, at least. It kept him from:

  1. Growing up to be a cowboy. (the kind that is a self seeking wanderer & never stays in one place for long at a time. Which we did think for awhile there he was going to be a bachelor for life. But thank the LORD for my sister-in-law, who changed all that for good.)  Mind you he has cleaned many a barn stalls, rode horses, tended to hogs, chickens, dogs, cats, & swam in the branch on hot summer days.
  2. Being a truck driver. Albeit, there are worse things to be. However, he has opted for a life off the road to make his living. Although, there was the time he moved to Atlanta to work. He lived in his car, ate on the run, & didn’t shower much. That’s kinda like a truck driver.
  3. Never staying home & always being alone. Let me say he would much rather be at home than traveling. It’s just something about sleeping in a house with all your peeps under one roof, that is good for the soul. There is always camaraderie going on with his bunch. Ne’er a dull moment.
  4. Loving smoky ole pool rooms. Mind you, he does love a friendly game of pool. He has never been the one to let leisure & responsibility collide. Being responsible & a rock for us all to lean on has always been his specialty. This is where I need to say he is God fearing, too.  Good people is what he is.
  5. Being hard to love. If you are around my brother, for any amount of time, & do not deem him likeable & more fun than a ride at the county fair, then you need to quit being such a stick in the mud. He’s always the life of the party. He loves to laugh. And ya’ll, he is quite the dancer. Not the kind of dancer that has any rhythm, but hey, he’s out there trying. You have to LOVE that. My kids think he is the BEST & hands down, I totally agree.

Bud olemiss

I know Father’s Day has just passed, but I did want to give a shout out to a WONDERFUL brother, daddy, & friend. He is a terrific brother that has such a great sister. Dadgum, he’s lucky.

Thank you for coming by to visit with me today.  I hope everybody had a good Father’s Day weekend.  We had a birthday we celebrated, as well.  It was outside & it was hot.  But we are into June with this year, so it was just as expected.  Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

Birthday boy in all his cuteness

Birthday boy in all his cuteness

Mr. Sweetie Pants enjoying the festivities.

Mr. Sweetie Pants enjoying the festivities.

What party is not complete without some water balloon action?

What party is not complete without some water balloon action?

 

And this guy.  He's always willing to play with the kids.  They are a bit smitten by him.

And this guy. He’s always willing to play with the kids. They are a bit smitten by him.

Sweet boys- they didn't care it was hot.

Sweet boys- they didn’t care it was hot.