There ain’t no cure for the summertime blues

It’s summer time, y’all! Seriously, one minute it’s 68 degrees & the next my glasses are fogging up every time I get out of my car. What happened to spring? That guy sure didn’t hang around long.

With it getting hotter outside, I start to think about how we decide to dress. I mean, the hotter it gets, the more people start wearing less and less. It won’t take long before you have to keep your kids’ eyes covered the whole time you are in Walmart. It begins to be rated PG-13 pretty dadgum quick. With that said, I wanted to share with you some things, I believe helpful in our quest to stay Godly.

We are studying I Timothy in our Sunday School class. I can’t find a better place to commence with our look into God’s Word about how we are expected to dress.

I Timothy 2: 9 in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. (NKJV)

The apostle Paul is talking about how a woman is to represent herself in the church.

Peter had something to say about how women should dress, as well.

I Peter 3: Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. (NKJV)

I don’t believe Paul or Peter is saying we should be drab in the way we dress. They are talking about vanity. Dressing in dullness, could be considered a vain display, as well. They are trying to drive home the fact we should be more worried about our hearts that an outfit that calls attention to us.

I have 2 ladies that I follow, that are a great example of modesty. Cyndi from Grace & Beauty is one. You can check her blog out by clicking here. 

Also, Tania from 50 is not old is always dressed so cute. You can check out her blog by clicking here. I know you will admire them, as much as I do.

I hope you are having a blessed week. Yesterday at lunch, I went to the store & bought a bathroom scale & 2 bags of candy. I’m not really sure what that says about me as a person. However, this is my life right now.  ANYWHOO, I hope you stay cool this week. As for me, I should be going now, because I should be washing clothes.

Who knew it was the weekend already? Happy weekend, y’all!

photo credits: http://www.cargocollective.com, http://www.pinterest.com

 

A shout out to my favorite stores

 

 

I know Christmas is way over.  However, I wanted to give a shout out to some remarkable merchants out there.  Since I broke up with Wal-Mart or Walmart or Walmarts (as my Mamaw called it) my cash flow has been much more flowy-er.  You can read about that here.

Just want to give a public & personal thank you to the following stores:

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Kmart

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Dollar Tree

walgreens

Walgreens

dollar general

Dollar General (which my Mamaw called the General Dollar Store)

Thank you, understanding merchants,  for not having a maximum time you can visit your store, in a few days period.  Thank you for allowing me to patronize your store every time, which seemed like I had just left your store, & then I remembered something I forgot. For the nine days I was off work at Christmas, I shopped just like it was my job. You allowed that. No questions asked. After I went back to work, one of your dear employees probably was chatting at break with a fellow coworker & said

“You know that lady we saw in here so much that one week during Christmas time? I have not seen her in a while.”

That’s because I have to face reality and go back to my real job. But thanks for not judging me.

kroger

And I can’t not say something about these folks without mentioning Kroger.  Listen ya’ll, Kroger has been a life changer for me.  They give you free stuff.  Not just once or twice a year.  Every. Single. Week.  Just for shopping with them. They give you a free item every Friday.  You just have to get online & download the freebie.  When you check out, you give them your Kroger Card & it adds up on your ticket to be FREE. They also GIVE you in FREE UNITED STATES DOLLARS $.10 or $.20 off of each gallon of gas your purchase.  That truly makes me weepy.  I drove a gas guzzling Suburban for years.  Only to trade into a Ford Focus that gets 75 miles to the gallon.  Well, maybe not that much.  But after spending my kid’s inheirtance on gas for that Suburban, it sure does seem that way.  (Sorry kids.  I know you thought you got all that shuttling around for free.)

KROGER KRAZY

And I can’t say something about Kroger without mentioning the lovely Katie at Kroger Krazy.  That sweet girl just wants everybody to save money.  If she lived closer to me, I know we would be tearing the Kroger store down together.  Her blog is chocked full of life changing, game changing, deals.  I love Kroger Krazy.  Anybody that wants to do all the leg work for me, hey, we are friends for life.  (Katie, you may or may not want to put out a restraining order on me right now, ha!)  Seriously, this is a wonderful resource for anybody that want to save money.

dirt cheap

 

My next new store to patronize & love is Dirt Cheap.  Let me just say I bought a BUNCH of clothes for my Grand Baby Girl for not a lot in there.  We are talking Target brand shirts for Dirt Cheap.  EEEKK!  I get happy all over again just thinking of it.  And, too my daughter was a page for the Senate one year & got to meet the owner of Dirt Cheap.  He was some sort of government official.  He was a really nice man & held in high regard by his peers. I like doing business with nice people.

Some people may view my thriftiness as cheap.  No, no, no.  There is a difference.  I seek out bargains, but will spend the big bucks when needed.  As I get older, I realize, when it comes to my purchases, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. (Don’t get PETA after me.  It’s just a Southern expression meaning there’s more than one way to do something.)  With a little time & effort, you don’t have to pay full price for stuff.  I do think it kinda my responsibility to take care of my home & the people there in.  Just like the woman in Proverbs 31.  I love this passage because I believe this is still a wonderful example laid out for us today.

Proverbs 31: 27  She watches over the ways of her household,  And does not eat the bread of idleness. (NKJV)

If you get the chance, reading the whole passage about the virtuous woman, will truly bless your heart.  (Proverbs 31:10-31) It always inspires me to be better.  I have been blessed to be acquainted with some of the most wonderful virtuous women ever.  My Mama, Mamaw, Mama Boyce, & mother-in-law are the ones that come to mind.  They all were wonderful examples that I try to pattern my life after.  My Mamaw & mother-in-law would be tickled to death to see me saving money at the grocery store.  They both LOVED a bargain.

Mamaw & Mama

Mamaw & Mama

I hope you have gotten some use out of this little blog post today.  I know I love to shop.  But I don’t think I have to spend ALL my money.  Until there’s another sale at the dollar store, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

photo credits: walgreens, dollar tree, dollar general, http://www.krogerkrazy.com , Kroger, Dirt Cheap

 

The time I broke up with Walmart

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It was the summer of 2009 & I had had it.  Every time I turned around, I was running to Walmart for something.  My husband had been laid off from his job.  We were turning off lights, taking shorter showers, limiting our cell phone usage, and basically only going to church & to & from work.  We cut way down on eating out.  Lots of things we learned quickly we thought we had to have, we didn’t.

One day, after coming out of Walmart, I was studying my receipt.  Now, I know Walmart is the place you have to watch out for falling prices.  They also price match anyone’s ad that’s a lower price than theirs.  So why, pray tell, could I not come out of there under $150?  Hmmm….I got to investigating more on this mystery. I went down the list & low & behold I found the answer.

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Walmart was sucking my bank account dry.

I was going in & making my price slashed purchases.  However, I was coming out with stuff I could very easily do without.  I made up my mind right then & there, I was not going to take it anymore.  So, I did what any full-blooded Southern, penny pinching consumer would do.

I broke up with Walmart. 

There were others there to comfort me through this life changing decision.  K-mart stepped right in & gave me a card, that when you buy your wares, you start racking up points.  In return, you can cash those boogers in & get money off.  Right off your total purchase!  I thought they were just flirting with me, until I bought a nice birthday present for nearly nothing out of pocket.

Next, Dollar General became my new love.  Do you know you can get $5 off coupons that make $25 worth of necessary things only cost you $20?  I’ll take $5 free dollars.  The Dollar Tree got on my list of favorites, as well.  Do you know how many things you can get in Dollar Tree for $50?  (Yup, 50, that’s how many.) They even have food now.  As I happily started seeing my money being put to better use, I realized Walmart had too many distractions.  Yes, I can get soap cheaper at Walmart than Dollar General.  However, I am not bombarded with stuff, as soon as I walk in the door.  Stuff that I & lots of other well meaning, moneysaving shoppers think they have to have.  (But honestly do not.)

Sometimes my spiritual life seems to get spent the same way.  Temptations & enticements easily lead me away.  There are times I have so many things that try to get in the way of me reading my Bible.  Often enough, I don’t take the time to stop & encourage someone.  Or I let other things get in the way of me stopping to send a card to someone sick.  I don’t take the opportunity to acknowledge someone’s problems because I’m too busy doing things that really aren’t helping me at all.

Such as reading all the wonderful, uplifting posts on my Facebook news feed.

(Ha. Haha. Hahahaha.) 

Or perhaps I might find a wee bit of time to help someone if I weren’t on Pinterest pinning funny sayings to my board.  Or looking for new hair styles, or pinning lots of lovely things to my crafty project boards – that I will probably never get time to do anyway.

James 1: 22 says  But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

That means I have got to be a doer.  A doer for good.  Then, maybe my temptations won’t seem so big.

John said in

I John 2:16 For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. (NKJV)

This means all the stuff I was seeing that I just HAD to have, was not only not necessary, it’s not of the Father.  SO, I had no business with it anyway.

The apostle Paul cautioned Timothy in

I Timothy 6:9 But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition.(NKJV)

Buying more things than I needed was foolish & harmful.  It just wasn’t doing anything but leaving me with less money.  At the time, I just didn’t need to be doing that.  While things are more on track now, I still don’t need to throw our money away.

Now that we are in 2014 & we have been back to a 2 job home for a while, I still do not go in Walmart very often.  My break up with Walmart taught me a few things.

  1. I have to hold myself to my shopping list. If I go in to buy notebooks for $.10, but still wind up with $103.17 worth of stuff in my buggy, those $.10 notebooks weren’t really that cheap, were they?
  2. I can survive without Walmart.
  3. Change may not be as bad as you think.
  4. I am not willingly subjecting myself to a store’s ploy to take my money. Because, hey I admit it. I am a sucker for a bargain & Walmart is FULL of them, plus lots of other stuff I don’t need.
  5. I can do without a lot of things I thought I could not.
  6. Even if I have money to purchase things, I need to ask myself if it’s a need or a want.

Just so the elephant in the room can move on out, this is not a paid endorsement from Kmart, Dollar General, nor The Dollar Tree.  These are my own personal opinions, in which have been perfectly approved by the president & CEO of I should be washing clothes (Which is me.)  I’m not bitter with Walmart.  I think they taught me some valuable lessons.  Some that I would have never experienced, if not for them & their stuff.

Thank you for coming by to visit with me today.  I have enjoyed our time together.  I hope you are able to provide for your family’s needs and wants.  Just remember, too, God will provide.  He provided for us while we were a one job household & He will provide for you, too.  I hope you enjoy this beautiful holiday weekend.  As for me, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

walmart shopping

photo credits: sodahead, tattoodonkey, & howtobreakup.net

Christmas shopping is a trick

I was listening to the radio on the way to work.  There was a commercial talking about black Friday. Evidently, if you don’t start camping out, outside of Best Buy right now, you are a loser & won’t have anything for your loved ones, for Christmas.  Or at least that’s what the announcer implied.

Deals! Deals! Deals! Oh the joys of saving money-for the holiday, of course…..

I will say this, the retail stores have done a great job of trying to get what little left over money the country has.  I mean, the Christmas decorations are out earlier every year.  At Halloween, we went over to our town’s trunk or treat for Miss Neenee to get some candy.  We were driving along & the Miss said, “Look Mama, snowflakes.”  Then, she proceeded to point to the light poles, that already had the Christmas decorations on them.  Go. Figure. Let me tell you this, I have 5 kids & a grand child to buy for.  I do not Christmas shop all year round.  I do not go to black Friday.  I wait until December to start shopping for Christmas.  And you know what?  Every year, they get Christmas presents.  I am not usually too stressed or coming apart.  My problem is, with such a large family, spending too much money.  Aha! You may say, perhaps I need to visit black Friday!  No, I would rather go thru all the money I have, than put myself through that.  Everybody has their rathers.  I would rather make a couple of mad dashes here & there & get it done.

Mind you, there was a time I loved Christmas shopping.  When my Mama was living we loved to shop together.  She loved shopping at any time of the year.  Christmas was just an extra special treat!  Even when she was in a wheelchair, she would have my Daddy take her to the Walmart Supercenter at midnight. Not just at Christmas, but other times, through out the year.  Her thought was that it was less crowded.  So, if she wanted to take time looking at things, she did not have to worry about being in people’s way.  Her Mama loved to Christmas shop, too.  I remember going to the store with her.  She would let me pick out what I wanted.  It was a toy, sometimes, or make-up, as I got older.  I got to help her pick out presents for my cousins, too.  We would do a lot of window shopping, as she called it.  You know, looking & admiring, not so much buying all we saw.  In times past, I would go with my sister-in-law & brother shopping on Friday after Thanksgiving. We usually went to Memphis shopping.  We would go to the Mall of Memphis & to Goldsmith’s on Poplar.  It was always a fun time making my brother carry our bags.  Perhaps one day I can Christmas shop like my Daddy.  He did all his Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve, every year, for every one, at Radio Shack.  My Mama was not too much on electronics.  So, he would have to pick her gift up somewhere else.  But boy did me & my brother always get some cool stuff! One year we got a remote control airplane.  Another time my brother got a hand held electronic baseball game & I got a tape recorder. Good times.

Whether you decide to go to black Friday & line up with all the folks to buy your goods, or if you decide to lay back & wait to start your shopping later on- I won’t judge you.  I will just be snoozing blissfully, on my day off, while some unshowered, lady(who has been up all night) snatches an Easy Bake Ultimate Oven or Furby away from a well meaning shopper down at the local Walmart.  There will be chaos, nasty jeers, yelling, & tramplings in some stores,  all in the name of Christmas presents.  Who wouldn’t want to miss that?

Thank you for stopping by to visit with me today.  I would love to hear about some of your Christmas shopping experiences.  However, I have to be going now, because I should be washing clothes……