5 things to help you when dealing with illness & being thankful for the little things

I was talking to a co-worker, the other day. I was sharing how many boxes I had to use to store my 2017 files. Normally, I use about 6. This year, I have already filled up 11 boxes & have more to go. We were talking about how blessed we were to have had a lot of work last year.  It also made me think about my mama & how she thought about work.

If you are new here, you may not know, but my mama passed away in 2002. She had multiple sclerosis. She was a wonderful person, not to mention the best mama in the WORLD. She became ill in her early 40s. So when I hit my early 40s guess what I thought was going to happen to me?? Yep. I got past it & thanked the Lord for it.  Looking back, I learned so many lessons while she was sick. It was a terrible time for our family. But we stuck together. One of the things I remember about my mama was that she worked hard. She worked at home & she worked an outside job. Once she got sick, I can remember on many occasions talking to her about work. There were times I would come in after work & be so tired. She would always tell me to be thankful.  She would say,

” Be glad you can go to work. I would just give anything if I could.”

That has really stuck with me through the years. I think of that when I get stressed or aggravated, at work. I am so blessed to have a good job & thankful I am healthy enough to go to work. When you get sick & tired of work & think how hard you must have it, just remember there’s those out there who would love to be healthy & able to hold down a job. Now that I look back on all those times when my mama was sick, I think of lessons I learned. And that’s something I want to say today. If you are going through a sickness of your own or someone else you love, here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Keep moving. Oh, it’s ok to stop & have a moment here & there. But look for the opportunities to do good.  You will do no good living on the corner of gloom and doom. Yes, it’s a tough deal, that no one wants to deal with. If you use your time to count your blessings & look ahead, things won’t be so grim. At one time, Mama was on the one at church, that you called to report announcements. She would take them down & give them to my Dad for church. She loved talking to people & letting them know they had our support. Find something you enjoy & keep going.

2. I learned just because you have a pain, doesn’t mean you have to be a pain. The nurses & nurses aids that cared for my mama always loved her. She hated to be in the position she was in. And she deeply appreciated those doing for her what she could no longer do for herself.

3. Never lose sight of God. In times of trials, it is so easy to question God & want to know why. There are no real good reasons why bad things happen to good people except that we live in a fallen world where the bad comes with the good. Accept it. It’s reality. We all deal with things we wish we didn’t have to. Keep your faith in God alive & well. Sometimes it’s all we have. Mama went to church even when my daddy would have to get her ready, pick her up & put her in the van, & push her in with her sitting in a wheelchair. That is true love for God.

Job 2:10 Shall we indeed accept good from God & shall we not accept adversity? (NKJV)

4. Look for the happy times. Illnesses are awful. But there is good in everything. I got to spend lots of quality time with my precious mama those last few years of her life. We learned to look for the little things, in our day, to help us make it through. Like getting the mail, the nurse coming, an unexpected guest, cooking special dishes, receiving cards from friends & family or ordering out. I can say, most of the time she kept a good attitude. Which I believe her thankfulness helped keep her grounded with her illness.

5. Keep your sense of humor. I can remember a lot of different times when mama would say, “Don’t that beat all?” Then she would laugh about whatever mess we had gotten ourselves into. Because, bless my heart more times than not, every time we tried to do something I would end up making things twice as hard as they really were. Things that were normally easy, was tough, when she was bedfast. Washing her hair was a total mess sometimes. Because how do you wash someone’s hair in the bed? I usually ended up getting her soaking wet. She would laugh & say she never thought she would have to swim with her gown on.  Laughing would help break up the monotony of the reality of what was really going on.

 Ephesians 4:28  Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labor, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.(KJV)

I hope you are having a blessed week. It’s been very rainy the past few days. And cold. We have thankfully been in the house! I hope you are somewhere sunny, with balmy wind hitting you in the face. I won’t be too jealous! Until next time, I should be going, because I should be washing clothes.

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How I had my faith strengthened & it’s ok to pick up your dirty socks

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You know, I never get tired of having my faith strengthened. God is such a working God.  He is on time, every time.  This past week, a sweet friend shared with me a beautiful story of God being hard at work in her life.

A friend of mine has been going through some trials. She has had her fair share of ups & downs here of late.  Sometimes, during the week, we may just get a minute to share what we have going on.  At times, it’s just a shaking of our heads in passing, saying- “Pray for me.”  And we do.  That’s why when she sent me a quick message, this week, I knew our prayers were being heard.  My friend’s mother has been in poor health.  She is older & is having quite a time.  My friend & her sister have been wearing themselves to a frazzle trying to take care of her.  Her doctor had discussed with my friend & her family about moving her to an assisted living center.  Of course, there goes more sleepless nights for my friend.  She knew in her head this was what was best for her mama.  But her heart kept tugging at her to keep her at home. When the day finally came to talk to her mama about staying in an assisted living home, her mama was just fine with it.  The doctor talked to her mama & explained to her this was what she needed right now.  She was all in.  No kicking, screaming, spittin’, cussin’ or anything, from my friend or her mama.  My friend was so thankful to the Lord & relieved.  She knew it was the prayers of hers & her family & friends that made it all work out.

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Change is hard. Sickness & getting older is hard.  There comes a time that we have to make decisions we don’t want to.  We have responsibilities to others.  And sometimes those hard decisions may have to do with our parents.  I know for me, when my mama got so sick, it was awful.  It was especially heartbreaking to have to move her to a place with 24 hour nurse care.   Nobody wants to have to move a loved one from their own home, to somewhere strange & unknown- even for their own good.  But with a lot of prayer, we did what we had to do.  We put our heart to the side & went with what our head told us to do.  Our main goal was to take care of her needs.  That’s what I told my friend, the last time we talked about her sweet mama.  “Remember, this is something to work out in your head, not your heart.”  She did the right thing.  She asked the Lord for help.  I think sometimes we don’t receive because we don’t ask.

Sadly very true....

Sadly very true….

James 1:6 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.

Just like anything, our asking has conditions. We must ask for things that are Godly & for the glory of the Lord.  Not for our own selfish benefit.

James 4:3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.

I think it was wonderful that my friend took all of this to our Lord. He was the One that made the difference.  We must rely on God’s divine will.  Not ours.

I am so glad you stopped by to visit with me today. Have I told you lately that I’m happy you are here?  I appreciate the time you give to coming by this little blog.  I also wanted to take this time to apologize to the cable man that came to fix our internet this week.  I am sorry you had to see my husband’s dirty socks on my bedroom floor.  I had fully intended on being home to pick them up before you got there.  Don’t worry.  I gave him a good scolding.  Since he was the one that let you back there anyway.  Trust me.  I know the talking to I gave him did a lot of good.  Because his dirty socks, he took off last night, were perhaps in the exact same area this morning.  I do love that man.  Even though he is a non-dirty sock picker upper.    I hope everyone has a blessed weekend.  As for me, I will be doing a little sewing for my granddaughter.  She’s got to have some new things for fall & Christmas.  I will share some of it with you, soon.  Until then, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

 

Oh & p.s. Happy 3rd birthday today to Mr. Sweetie Pants!!

KADE SUNGLASSES

 

 

 

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