How to handle rudeness like a boss & no fall weather for us

The other day, I came across a situation, that was somewhat uncomfortable. I was at the dollar store with my buggy full of snacks, toiletries, and other miscellaneous things. I was picking up some items to send to my deployed son-in-law. I walked up to the counter with my buggy & the man in front of me walked back in the store for something. I asked the cashier was he coming back? She said he was & I said okay & stayed in my place in line. This lady walks up beside me, then past me, then in front of me.

She said, “Thank you, hon.”

I looked at the cashier & she looked at me because clearly, I had just been passed in line without my permission. I didn’t even realize she was anywhere around until she was already in front of me. Did she not notice me? Did she figure she had less items than me so she automatically got to go 1st? Was she just flat out being rude & pushing her limit with me? I was just taken back & a smidge appalled at how dare she cut line. I was on my lunch. Was my time not just as valuable as hers?

It was at this point I thought there were some options I had here.

  1. I could pitch a duck dog fit & demand the older lady & her can of potted meat get behind me in line.
  2. I could “accidently” lose control of my buggy & run her over.
  3. I could ask the cashier to call a manager & demand the lady be escorted from the premises for having manners of a dish rag.
  4. I could shake my head, smile with my lips pursed tightly, & look the other way.

Fortunately, I chose #4. Which ended up being the best for everybody. Because I got my goods & went back to work. I didn’t have to waste my time teaching someone, not wanting to listen, a lesson. I didn’t have to be escorted out of the store for whooping up on a rude old lady. Was this a really big problem? Or was it just an inconvenience?

Ephesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. (NKJV)

Y’all, every problem creates an opportunity. This time, it allowed me the chance to practice my manners & LORD HAVE MERCY, just let it go. What if this lady had just gotten bad news & wasn’t sure what to do?  What if it made her so preoccupied that she didn’t realize what she was doing? What if she was in a hurry to get back home to a sick family member? What if her life were just in such pain & chaos she was just ready to get what she needed & get out of the store? I didn’t know. It sure didn’t give me a free pass to give her a piece of my mind. In which I have heard my precious Mama Boyce say, (Upon trying to break up a mere disagreement between me and my brother, as young’uns at her house.)

“Don’t you be actin’ sucha way.”

Then, she would raise her eyebrows & you knew she meant it.

Colossians 3:12-13  Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering;bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. (NKJV)

Just know this, people are hurting. Someone may have just gotten some news back from the doctor, that was not what they had hoped for. Someone may have just lost a person that meant a lot to them. Somebody could have just lost a job, their house, or their kids in a divorce. We all go through things we wish we didn’t have to. There are certain times, more than others, we just need people to be kind to us. It’s not necessary to prove your point all the time. Nor is it your job to correct everyone’s shortcomings. Will some people take advantage of your kindness? Probably. But if you help one person along the way, ain’t that worth it? None of us are getting out of this thing called life alive. So, why not try to make things as pleasant as possible? And seriously, are there just some rotten people in this old world, that don’t want to be nice? Absolutely.  And I have found those people need kindness most of all. So let’s make sure we give folks the benefit of the doubt. Because on our bad days, don’t we want the same?Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, (NKJV)

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today.  Saturday, me & my Mr. Sweetie Pants grandson decorated our porch for fall. I can’t say it was the most fun I had ever had putting pumpkins out in 90 degree weather. But hey. You can’t have everything. And apparently, this year, we can’t have cool weather in October. I hope where you are, it is beautiful fall weather.  We are enjoying all of our band time with Miss Neenee, as well. She is just blowing her trumpet & making memories. You all have a blessed week & remember to freely share kind words, love, & encouragement. Until next time I should be washing clothes.

Best day of a teen’s life. When they get their hunting license.

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We should care like Jesus does & why high school is a bad idea

Goodness gracious is it really just a few weeks until the kids go back to school? I just can’t with this. Miss Neenee is going to be in the 9th grade.

As in High. School.

I ask myself: “Why does she even need higher learning?” I love her just the way she is. But she is so excited to go. I just know with high school beginning, that means she will be flying out of our little nest before too many years. Which is not my favorite.

I am so over this already, y’all and it ain’t even started. Oh my word.  I’m trying my best not to make a mountain out of a mole hill, but GAH.

HIGH SCHOOL. MY BABY. TOO MUCH TO HANDLE.

Bless my heart. Y’all pray for me. Because dadgum it if I had my druthers we would still be here.

Not here.

Speaking of which, do you ever get so caught up with your own circus of problems, that you don’t notice what others have going on? I am so bad about this, unless someone just pretty much comes up to me & tells me what’s happening, I don’t even pay attention to what’s all around me. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that I have such a heapin’, helpin’ of this life stuff happening, that I may fail to look at what others are going through. That’s not always good.

This past Sunday, our Sunday School teacher was talking about Jesus. He was mentioning the fact that Jesus helped people & we should be willing to do the same thing. He was talking about how Jesus healed the woman, that had an issue of blood. She had so much faith, that she knew if she could just get to Jesus & touch the hem of his garment, her troubles would be over.

Matthew 9:20-22

 And suddenly, a woman who had a flow of blood for twelve years came from behind and touched the hem of His garment. 21 For she said to herself, “If only I may touch His garment, I shall be made well.” 22 But Jesus turned around, and when He saw her He said, “Be of good cheer, daughter; your faith has made you well.” And the woman was made well from that hour.

 

A sweet hearted lady at church made mention of just that fact people may still be reaching out to touch His garment. When they do, we need to be ready to help. Her point was this, people are hurting. They need the same healing Jesus gave that woman. If others around us reach out to us, we need to be ready to point them to Jesus. I know some may be reluctant to lend a helping hand to others because

A. What do you even say to a person that is in dire straits?

And

B. Who am I to get into someone else’s business?

If you see someone that you know has had a hard time or is having a hard time, sometimes just saying, “I’m praying for you, would you like to talk?” or “What can I do to make things easier for you?” or “Here’s my cell number. Text me & let’s go out to eat.”  Are  WONDERFUL ways to begin. Then, be there to lend an ear, or meet for lunch, or whatever the other person feels comfortable with. Now let me tell you, I am the worst one in the world to accept help from others. I will scratch and claw and knash my teeth before I will give up and take someone’s offer of help. I have this stubborn way of thinking that I have to do everything on my own. It may be a pride thing or just being bull headed. But there are times I have to step back & say, “This is too much.” Then, members of my personal support team come in and rescue me. (**Personal support team = my wonderful, unjudging family & friends**)

The kind hearted lady I was talking about, just a minute ago, is actually a doctor. She counsels and is basically a super hero. She made mention of the fact that people need to understand they do not have to walk around with the weight of the world on their shoulders. People need to realize there is help out there. It’s through us as Christians that we need to be willing to reach out and help others. I heard a preacher say once,

“People are hurting. They need to know we care & they need to know about the love of Jesus.”

You just never know what the person right beside you is going through.

AND you don’t have to be up in someone’s business to help. Simply just saying, “I’m here if you need me.” Or “I have been thinking about you.” Or how about, “I love you.” Plain & simple. Sometimes just knowing you have support is the best medicine. If the other person does need help, hopefully, this will open the door for them to tell you that.

I can remember my mama telling me more than once,

“Don’t let things get in sucha mess. You would have been so much better off if you had of let somebody help you.”

Yes, yes I could have.  But my “I can do it myself” got in the way with reality. Which was “I really could use help, like last week.” I guess I just don’t like to admit I can’t HANDLE IT ALL. Which is really silly of me because I have help around every corner, if I would only quit thinking I am less of a person for needing help. And you know my Personal Support Team I made mention of? Every time I ask one of them to help me out, they are more than glad to. It goes without saying, it would be advisable for me to not think I am too good to ask or receive help because like my Mama Boyce used to say:

“Lawdy, chile, you know better than that.”

So, to recap:

  1. Realize there are people that need help.
  2. Be prepared to help others.
  3. Let others help you,

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. It has been hotter than blue blazes here. Which is great if you can stay under the air conditioning all the time. Otherwise, it can be a smidge inconvenient because hair and makeup are not a fan of humidity. More than once in the past few weeks I have declared: I’ma ’bout to burn up! Miss Neenee is at band camp this week and next week. Pray that she remembers to put on her sunscreen, bless her red faced heart. Until next time, I should be going because I should be washing clothes.

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One Word 2017 & can anybody tell me what happened to my turnip greens?

 

screenshot_2017-01-02-10-10-13-12017 is here! As in right here. Right now.  I wanted to take this time to share with you my “One Word” for 2017. I gave this a little thought. Not a lot because it just kinda came to me this year. With all the crazy happenings we have had going on in 2016, I learned I have to really trust in the Lord. So, there was no question, y’all:

Trust was my One Word.

I wanted to be sure I kept the Lord’s goodness & care in the forefront of my mind. So now, every day, every chance I get, I will be remembering to trust the Lord. I am going to commit some scripture to memory, that has to do with this glorious trust.

Trust the Lord with all your heart. And lean not on your own understanding: In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. (NKJV)

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord, and do good: Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.(NKJV)

Psalm 37:3

Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. (NKJV)

Psalm 37: 5

I am so excited for 2017! And what happens on New Year’s Day? We eat of course! Y’all my Mamaw always made sure we had hog’s jowl, to be healthy, black eyed peas, for luck, & greens for money. I always make sure my kid and grandkids know the same important rules for new year. You have to eat all of this to have a good year. They sorta look at the hog’s jowl sideways, but they are always in on the other mandatory dishes.  I cooked turnip greens, per my usual. Normally, they are really good. But, goodness gracious they were bitter & just didn’t have the taste they typically do. The only thing I did different was I forgot to drain them once they came to a boil. And I cut up all of the greens together, stalks and all. Would that have made that big of a difference? Y’all I need some help. My sweet honey and me have gone over & over what might have happened. Any comments are more than welcome, I do not want to have my Mama Boyce’s & Mamaw’s honor in question for any longer. Lord, they wouldn’t be too thrilled about this.

I hope and pray y’all have a blessed new year. Do you have a one word resolution, like me? I’d love to hear about it. I have to be going now, because I should be washing clothes.

Me & my girls (and yes I cropped out me wearing houseshoes. #gladmamawcouldmakeit)

Me & my girls (and yes I cropped out me wearing houseshoes. #gladmamawcouldmakeit)

Miss Neenees with some of her church friends.

Miss Neenee with some of her sweet church friends.

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For goodness snakes no! & things that happen when you buy dirt and containers

My people ready for summer.

My people ready for summer.

Mr. Sweetie Pants ready for summer.

Mr. Sweetie Pants ready for summer & looking all dapper for church.

When it gets to being the hot part of the year, y’all, I have so many things I think back on.  Sipping red Kool-Aid on my Mama Boyce’s car porch ( as she referred to it).  Playing outside in the yard.  Catching lightning bugs.  Eating too many strawberries out of my Papa Clyde’s strawberry patch.  Swimming in the branch at my Mamaw & Papaw’s house.  And going to the garden at both sets of my grandparents’ houses.

My Papaw & Mamaw Austin were very well versed in growing gardens.  They worked so hard to make sure we had our freezers full for winter.  I remember one steamy summer morning, I was about 7 years old.  The daily plans included, going to the garden.  My Papaw had already been to the barn, that morning, to milk the cow, feed the mule Kate,  & other farmish related duties.  When he got back to the house, he perhaps made mention that one of the barn cats had had kittens.  Well, don’t you know that perked my ears up real quick.  Then, y’all I started with the begging to go see them.  Goodness Gracious why would they expect me to wait around whilst there were things at the barn that I needed to be looking at?  Mamaw said it was time to go to the garden anyway, so off we went.

The barn was situated right beside the garden.  So, once we made it down there, it didn’t take long until I had worried Mamaw down to a frazzle & she said I could go in the barn to search for the newly born kittens.  However, she wanted me to wait for Papaw to go inside with me.  Being the obedient & always minding child I was, I started to sneak off to the barn by myself.  Papaw was just taking too long.  I walked up through the dirt rows & when I about got to the end, I heard Mamaw holler.  I turned around & looked & Papaw was beating the ground with his hoe.  Right in the spot where I had been walking.  Well, needless to say, he wasn’t just beating the ground for nothing.  There was a black racer snake that was chasing me up the garden row.  I didn’t even know it.  My Papaw had come in & killed it to protect me.  Even when I was being disobedient.

Now, does that not sound like the Lord?  Even though we may be on a path He told us not to go on, He still watches over us.  Even when we don’t deserve it.  That’s called grace.  The dictionary.com simply gives this definition of grace:

favor or goodwill.

The Lord takes care of us when we have done nothing whatsoever to deserve it.  I have heard it called “unmerited favor”.  That’s what the Lord does for us.  He steps right in & protects His children whether we know it or not.

Ephesians 2:8 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God,  NKJV

The Lord is really good at working behind the scenes.  As a matter of fact that’s where He does some of His best work.  So, today, if you feel like you are going through a hard time by yourself, you aren’t.  The Lord is always there watching over us & keeping us from harm.

Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower;
The righteous run to it and are safe. NKJV

James 4:6 But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” NKJV

So, we have done our little version of a garden this year.  It’s a container garden on our back deck.  Because who doesn’t want fresh vegetables?   I reckon we do.

We started out planting. This is the peppers.

We started out planting. This is the peppers.

This is just when we got finished planting. There are tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, & herbs.

This is just when we got finished planting. There are tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, & herbs.

This was the cucumbers one day this week. These guys have grown right before our eyes!

This was the cucumbers one day this week. These guys have grown right before our eyes! Don’t that beat all?

And what about these? We may be fancy gardeners, yet.

And what about these? We may be fancy gardeners, yet.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today.  Summer has come in full force here in northeast Mississippi.  We are going to reach the high 90s this weekend.  Along with that comes humidity & mosquitos!  It will be so hot we won’t be able to let our kids go outside & play.  Y’all, it will be hotter than blue blazes.  There is no wonder there are so many Christians in the South. 🙂

Hope you have a blessed day.  Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

And here is a random picture of my brother & mama, just because I miss her.

And here is a random picture of my brother & mama, just because I miss her.

One of a kind mothers & Happy Mother’s Day

 

 MOTHERS DAY

As Mother’s Day is approaching, I find it fitting I talk about some special mothers.

Maw

My grandmothers had hearts of a servant.  My Mamaw could not sit & enjoy much of anything when it came to meal time.  Meal time was her time to shine.  She was a wonderful cook.  When you were at her house, you were her guest.  And let me tell you, she was not going to have her guest WANT for anything.  She was just not that kind of hostess.  When we ate, she would sit beside my Papaw.  There she was at the best angle to hop up & get anything you would need.  If you needed a spoon, she could hop up & be at the silverware drawer in an instant.  If you needed more sweet tea, the jug was on the counter right behind her.  She thoroughly enjoyed serving her family & friends.  Not just at mealtime, but whatever we needed, she was there with helping hands.  She sewed for us, she gardened, she made quilts, so that we could keep warm in the winter, she tended to chickens, cows, and the occasional dog or cat.  Most importantly, she tended to people.  She kept her grandchildren during the summer & after school.  And any other time in between.  She visited & sat with people who were sick.  Thank the Good Lord my Papaw passed on before her.  He would have been completely useless without her.  She did everything for him.  When he worked at the TVA, she got up every morning & made him biscuits, eggs, & some sort of porkish meat.  These weren’t my beloved frozen biscuits or canned biscuits.  These were the real deal.  Every day.  When my Mama got so sick, she came & sat with her every day.  She cooked, cleaned, & took care of Mama until Mamaw passed away suddenly one night in her sleep.  That’s just who she was.  A wonderful Christian servant at heart.

Mama Boyce

My Mama Boyce was also a true servant.  She had 10 children.  She pretty much lived for her family.  She cooked & cleaned & took care of chickens, dogs, cats, & what have you.  She gardened like nobody’s business.  This little lady had a green thumb if I’ve ever seen one. She had the most beautiful roses I’d ever seen.  To this day, I tell you, I’ve never seen one as pretty.  She loved flowers & plants.  She cooked the best green beans I have ever put in my mouth.  She enjoyed having us at her house.  She took such good care of us.  Sometimes to a fault.  I can remember being young & getting in trouble for sitting in the living room calling to her to bring me a drink or a peanut butter & jelly sandwich or whatever it was my little heart desired.  My daddy told me my grandmother was NOT there to wait on me hand & foot. That I should get up & get what I needed for myself.  Funny how he would have even known about this behavior except I probably made my brother mad & he spilled the beans about my bossy pants.  She kept her house spotless.  She was always willing to help others, just like it was her job.  She was so humble, too.  That only comes from the heart of a servant.

Luke 22:27 says

27 For who is greater, he who sits at the table, or he who serves? Is it not he who sits at the table? Yet I am among you as the One who serves.

Joshua made sure he served the right One.

Joshua 24:15

And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” 

Jesus had no trouble telling the devil Who to serve:

Matthew 4:10

Then Jesus said to him, “Away with you, Satan! For it is written, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.’”

Growing up,  I am so blessed to have had faithful women around me.  My Mama, Mamaw, Mama Boyce, & mother in law all served a great God.   They laid the foundation for our family.  They are the reasons I do a lot of the things I do today.  They taught me how to treat others.  They taught me how to handle difficulties in life.  By their examples, they taught me how to be a good wife & mother.  Because they were the BEST.  All of the before mentioned have passed on.  If your mother, grandmother or someone who was like a mother or grandmother to you is still with you, be sure to let them know you love them.  Not just on Mother’s Day, but as often as you can.  I know they will be so glad you did.  AND let us not forget those who are “motherless” on Mother’s Day.  That can prove to be a tough day.  A kind word to those of us can be deeply appreciated as well.

Mama I

I hope you have a blessed day today.  I am so thankful you dropped by.  What will you be doing this Mother’s Day weekend?  We will have kids & grandkids over.  When they are around, the interesting level at my house hits an all time high.  It is always a fun time!  Until then, I will be going, because I should be washing clothes.

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wash day

6 things to help you get rid of worry for good

I hope this finds everyone doing well.  We have been having some rain.  And too, I have found a new way to waste my time.  I have been watching too many tornado videos online.  Have you seen the one of the guy on the interstate that is like right there at a tornado?  I mean he could have probably reached out & touched the thing??  It was the one in Rochelle, IL last week.

TOO MUCH for me.  I am confident when I say, if my Mama Boyce were here today, in the times of youtube tornado videos, well, let’s just say she probably would not let me watch them.  She was terrified of tornadoes.  She & my family were in a tornado one time & to say they lost everything is an understatement.  We stayed with my grandparents, during the day while Mama & Daddy were at work.  Also, we were there after we got off the school bus.  And every moment in between, if we wished.  We lived right beside them.  Since that awful event, every time it thundered, we were at the storm house.  Peanut butter & crackers & a water jar in hand, we would make the walk to the edge of the yard to the storm house.  My Papa Clyde would go in ahead of us & scare out any mice, rats, snakes, lizards, or whatever had set up shop since our last visit.  Spiders & cobwebs were expected.  However, since we were not a bunch of barbarians, my Papa Clyde would run out all of the before mentioned like it was his job.  If for some reason we were not at their house, she was on the phone calling.  Wanting to know when we were going to be at the storm house.  This was a serious deal with her & everybody had just better go along with it.  She was a worrier.  She loved all of us & worried we would not make it to safety in time.  However, we don’t have to live in a land of fear & what if’s.

Here are some ways to take worries out of our lives:

  1. Give them to the Lord. Straight out of the shoot, let the Lord handle everything. I Peter 5:7  casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.
  2. Pray. We should not do anything without talking to the Lord about it. All day long. All night long. The Lord never gets tired of hearing from you. I Thessalonians 5:17 pray without ceasing,
  3. Forget about it. Time thinking about the negative, robs us of time to enjoy the good things in life.  I can’t help but sing the Frozen song in my head when I think of this one.  Just “Let It Go”. Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. 
  4. Remember we cannot control all situations. The devil is on his game looking for whoever he can to cause trouble with.  Don’t play the blame game & think you could have done something differently to deter a situation.  Sometimes you just can’t.  I Peter 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.
  5. Be thankful. Who has time to worry if you are using that time wisely? We should be thanking the Lord for the good things in our lives, on a regular basis. There is ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS something to be thankful for.Psalms 100:4 Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.
  6. Trust the Lord.  Proverbs 3: 5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him,And He shall direct[a] your paths.

worry

 

The sun is finally poking it’s head out, this afternoon.  I am very glad to see it.  Speaking of someone poking their head out, last weekend Mr. Sweetie Pants came to spend the night.  His dad picked him up on Saturday.  He went non-stop the whole time he was at the house.  When asked by his grandfather to please quit pulling the cords on the blinds on the living room window, he reassuredly replied,

“It’s ok Pap.  I know what I’m doing.”  Well, he is 3 years old you know.

Much of the time he was there was spent with him reassuring us he knew how to do things, him actually going ahead with what he was doing, & then blaming Miss Neenee with it all. And ya’ll after he left I was one worn out Grand!  The next day, just in time for lunch, here he comes back.  He runs back to the bedroom where I am.  He pokes his head around the corner of the door & says,

“Grand, I’m back.”

I would not trade these days for nothing.  But for now I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

George Strait on my Pandora.  It's the little things.

George Strait on my Pandora. It’s the little things.

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Making the decision to be kind & I need a new microwave

Decisions, decisions. We all have to make them.  Sometimes decisions can be hard.  Evidently it was for the sky this morning.  It could not decide if it was going to storm or if the sun was going to shine.

clouds

If you look closely, you can see the sun was trying to shine. But, we were driving right into some ugly looking clouds.  Strange, I know.  With the sky being so indecisive this morning, it made me think about a story, my Daddy has always told about my Papa Clyde.  There was a time, he had a chance to make a life altering decision.  You will be very surprised at what he did.

share croppers

 

My Papa Clyde was a sharecropper. He & my Mama Boyce had 10 children.  They obviously had to make the most of their earnings.  However, they were always willing to share what they had with others.  One time my Papa Clyde started to notice the fuel in his farm tank was running low.  He would get more fuel added in, then before he could turn around, the level was back down.  He had an idea of what was going on.  So, he waited & after dark, he took his post out by the fuel tank.  Before long, one of his neighbors wandered up the dirt path, with a gas can & hose.  Papa Clyde sat there & watched as the guy started to siphon fuel out.  When the time was right, Papa Clyde walked up to the man.  The man was obviously startled.  The man immediately started apologizing to my grandfather.  My grandfather said,

”Look you are going to have to stop this.”

 The man regrettably agreed,

“I know Mr. Clyde, I am so sorry. I won’t steal no more of your gas again.” 

Papa Clyde looked sorta puzzled & said,

“I mean yer gonna hafta quit siphonin’ this out. You could get hurt doin’ that.” 

The man didn’t know what to think.  Papa Clyde said,

“Looky here.  This is the spout.  Let me see yer can.” 

gas can

With that, Papa Clyde took his gas can & showed him how to operate the fuel tank.  After he filled up his can, he handed it back to the man & said,

“Now that you know how to get it out, just help yourself, anytime you need it.” 

Needless to say, Papa Clyde did not have any problems with this man stealing gas again.  Ever.

I have told that story to several different people. I have had some say,

 “I would have shot anybody trying to steal from me.” 

My grandfather did not choose that.  That day he decided kindness was the best medicine.  It puts me in mind of how Elisha, in II Kings 6: 8-23, handled the Syrians.

The Syrians were a bad bunch of people. They were trying to go to war against Israel.  Elisha would have none of it.  He had an idea.  First off, when the Syrians surrounded the city, he asked the Lord to blind them.

II Kings 6:

18 So when the Syrians came down to him, Elisha prayed to the Lord, and said, “Strike this people, I pray, with blindness.” And He struck them with blindness according to the word of Elisha.(NKJV)

Next, he led the army to Samaria. v.19

Once there, Elisha asked the Lord to make them see again. When the soldiers regained their sight, the king of Israel asked Elisha could he kill them.

21 Now when the king of Israel saw them, he said to Elisha, “My father, shall I kill them? Shall I kill them?”(NKJV)

 However, Elisha has another plan.  Elisha chooses kindness.  He told the king to make a great feast for them.  After that, Elisha sent them back home.  Do you know what happened after that?  They never darkened Israel’s door step again.

23 Then he prepared a great feast for them; and after they ate and drank, he sent them away and they went to their master. So the bands of Syrian raiders came no more into the land of Israel. (NKJV)

kindness

Don’t you imagine it took some courage for Elisha & my Papa Clyde to stand up to people who were wronging them? I would think it would take a level of maturity, that is not seen often enough, & a love for your fellow man to react in kindness. I have to admit, I am not sure I would have reacted in love & kindness in either of those situations.  However, with these 2 wonderful examples I have, I hope to be reminded of their mercy, kindness, & forgiveness, when someone treats me without regard.  You have heard

“a little bit of  kindness goes a long way.”

Well, today, my friend, you have seen where it did.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today & listen to me ramble about making wise decisions.   I hope you are having a wonderful week.  Mine will get better when I get a new microwave.  Mine has tore plumb up!  We have missed the clock on it more than anything.  My husband has threatened to sit his alarm clock on top of it.  Until I get to shop for a microwave, (which will be more decisions for me)  I should be going because I should be washing clothes.

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Preparing For Winter in the South

big-vegetable-garden-lgFall is in the air, in northeast Mississippi.  It seems just like yesterday, we were complaining about the hot, humid, weather.  Now, it seems we may be getting a much needed break.  This time of the year puts me in mind of my grandmother & preparation. 

You see, as I was growing up, both sets of my grandparents planted & grew gardens.  Me and my brother stayed with my Mama Boyce & Papa Clyde, (Daddy’s mama & daddy) while Mama & Daddy were at work.  This meant after school & summers were spent, doing whatever it was we could get away with, at their house on Leedy Hill. Papa Clyde & Mama Boyce always had a big garden every summer. We affectionately referred to it as the truck patch.  I never really knew why it was called a truck patch.  It wasn’t even close to a truck.  If anyone out there knows, please enlighten me.  Anyways, we worked in the garden all summer long.  We would get out in the hot morning sun & pick whatever it was that was in at the time.  We picked purple hull peas, squash, tomatoes, okra, corn, cucumbers, butter beans, green beans, pretty much anything you could think of.  Then, there were plums, apples, strawberries, mucadines, peaches, pears, all kinds of fruit trees, too. My brother can still tell you the exact whereabouts the pear tree was on the property.  I’m sure because he picked up many a pears off the ground, before they ruined.  Mama Boyce made sure little went to waste around there. We shelled peas & butter beans, snapped green beans, shucked corn, & basically helped to work up the vegetables, so that Mama Boyce could put them up.  She canned & froze the vegetables.  She made pickles out of the cucumbers & okra.   She would call my Aunt Edna over to make jelly. 

My Aunt Edna laughs & says, “Mama had a child for everything.  If she needed something from town, she would call on Mary Helen.  If she needed to go to the doctor, your Daddy took her.  If she had to go to the hospital she wanted Tooter to help her.  If she needed help when she got out of the hospital, she would call Nancy.  If anyone was coming to visit or if the garden came in, she called me.”  Looking back, summers were dedicated to preparing for winter. It was a canning, freezing frenzy of a time.  Mama Boyce & Papa Clyde were determined we were going to have plenty to eat, while it was cold outside.  We had a big family, so that was a lot of preparation. They most certainly knew the importance of working & not being lazy.  The result, from the summer garden, was food in abundance all winter long.  It was a matter of taking care of their own.  Not haphazardly tossing caution to the wind, just sitting around waiting for someone else to provide for us. They realized things just did not happen.  They taught us hard work & preparation is key to success & survival.

Proverbs 6:6 says  Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise:

7 Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler,

8 Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.

There is a method to the madness of an ant.  It’s preparation.  Just as my grandmother saw the importance of preparing for the winter.  There was no rest for those few months.  But, in the colder months, when our bellies were full of warm comfort foods, we understood why she insisted we be such worker ants.  It’s easier to appreciate the bountiful harvest, once the hard work is over.

There is something else that’s being prepared right this minute. That’s our home in heaven.

John 14:1-3  Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.

In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.

And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.

I am so thankful for my preparing grandmother, but I am most thankful for my preparing Savior. What a blessing to know Jesus is making preparations for me to come be with Him.  That makes me smile!  I hope it makes you happy, too.  His preparations for us as Christians, in the end,  will make everything worthwhile.  Just as my earthly grandmother was so thoughtful in her preparing for our needs, the Lord is thinking of us right now, while he prepares for us to be with Him for eternity.  That should just make us feel really good.  Like chocolate gravy & biscuits good.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today.  I always love when you stop by.  I hope you are getting some good fall weather wherever you are. Enjoy the rest of your day!  As for me, I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.