5 things to help you when dealing with illness & being thankful for the little things

I was talking to a co-worker, the other day. I was sharing how many boxes I had to use to store my 2017 files. Normally, I use about 6. This year, I have already filled up 11 boxes & have more to go. We were talking about how blessed we were to have had a lot of work last year.  It also made me think about my mama & how she thought about work.

If you are new here, you may not know, but my mama passed away in 2002. She had multiple sclerosis. She was a wonderful person, not to mention the best mama in the WORLD. She became ill in her early 40s. So when I hit my early 40s guess what I thought was going to happen to me?? Yep. I got past it & thanked the Lord for it.  Looking back, I learned so many lessons while she was sick. It was a terrible time for our family. But we stuck together. One of the things I remember about my mama was that she worked hard. She worked at home & she worked an outside job. Once she got sick, I can remember on many occasions talking to her about work. There were times I would come in after work & be so tired. She would always tell me to be thankful.  She would say,

” Be glad you can go to work. I would just give anything if I could.”

That has really stuck with me through the years. I think of that when I get stressed or aggravated, at work. I am so blessed to have a good job & thankful I am healthy enough to go to work. When you get sick & tired of work & think how hard you must have it, just remember there’s those out there who would love to be healthy & able to hold down a job. Now that I look back on all those times when my mama was sick, I think of lessons I learned. And that’s something I want to say today. If you are going through a sickness of your own or someone else you love, here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Keep moving. Oh, it’s ok to stop & have a moment here & there. But look for the opportunities to do good.  You will do no good living on the corner of gloom and doom. Yes, it’s a tough deal, that no one wants to deal with. If you use your time to count your blessings & look ahead, things won’t be so grim. At one time, Mama was on the one at church, that you called to report announcements. She would take them down & give them to my Dad for church. She loved talking to people & letting them know they had our support. Find something you enjoy & keep going.

2. I learned just because you have a pain, doesn’t mean you have to be a pain. The nurses & nurses aids that cared for my mama always loved her. She hated to be in the position she was in. And she deeply appreciated those doing for her what she could no longer do for herself.

3. Never lose sight of God. In times of trials, it is so easy to question God & want to know why. There are no real good reasons why bad things happen to good people except that we live in a fallen world where the bad comes with the good. Accept it. It’s reality. We all deal with things we wish we didn’t have to. Keep your faith in God alive & well. Sometimes it’s all we have. Mama went to church even when my daddy would have to get her ready, pick her up & put her in the van, & push her in with her sitting in a wheelchair. That is true love for God.

Job 2:10 Shall we indeed accept good from God & shall we not accept adversity? (NKJV)

4. Look for the happy times. Illnesses are awful. But there is good in everything. I got to spend lots of quality time with my precious mama those last few years of her life. We learned to look for the little things, in our day, to help us make it through. Like getting the mail, the nurse coming, an unexpected guest, cooking special dishes, receiving cards from friends & family or ordering out. I can say, most of the time she kept a good attitude. Which I believe her thankfulness helped keep her grounded with her illness.

5. Keep your sense of humor. I can remember a lot of different times when mama would say, “Don’t that beat all?” Then she would laugh about whatever mess we had gotten ourselves into. Because, bless my heart more times than not, every time we tried to do something I would end up making things twice as hard as they really were. Things that were normally easy, was tough, when she was bedfast. Washing her hair was a total mess sometimes. Because how do you wash someone’s hair in the bed? I usually ended up getting her soaking wet. She would laugh & say she never thought she would have to swim with her gown on.  Laughing would help break up the monotony of the reality of what was really going on.

 Ephesians 4:28  Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labor, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.(KJV)

I hope you are having a blessed week. It’s been very rainy the past few days. And cold. We have thankfully been in the house! I hope you are somewhere sunny, with balmy wind hitting you in the face. I won’t be too jealous! Until next time, I should be going, because I should be washing clothes.

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Birthday wisdom & various photobombs & selfies

 

 

 

Bday selfie

It was my birthday.  My Daddy called to say he wanted to take me out.  Well, you don’t have to tell me twice.  We selected a restaurant.   Then me & some of my other peeps met up with him.  You should know everything we do revolves around eating.  I don’t know if that’s a Southern thing or we just like to make sure we are doing our part to keep farmers in business.

Bday EAThere was this girl who was supposed to be taking birthday snapshots.  However, sometimes she was taking pictures of herself.  Which is ok.  Because she is really pretty.

Bday NEENThen, there was this cutie.  I don’t know what she was doing.  Just entertaining herself with selfies I suppose.

PureBday Nee

Bday neelyEntertainment

bday lakeIIThere were some pictures of me & my honey by the lake.  Hey, who is that standing on the picnic table??    What’s the big idea??

Bday lake

Here is another picture of us.  Wait, do you see the little girl sticking out from behind my honey?  She’s waving.  This is what happens when you have silly kids.  You will never have another good picture again.

Bday girlsThat is unless you can get them both in the picture at the same time.  Don’t they look like angels?

Bday coupleThen here we are again.  Still trying to get a good picture.  Not that ya’ll care, but the wind was blowing like a tornado was coming through.  My hair was everywhere.

Bday NksHere’s this guy again.  Miss Neenee says she loves him a lot.

Bday daddy girls

Pretty sure he loves them a lot, too.

He is always in the mood to give advice.  I was telling EA that night that I had found a way for her to save her money & have $2 million by the time she retired.  In which Daddy advised her:

“Don’t save your money.  When you get that age, you won’t feel like doing anything.  Do everything you want to do, while you are young.  While you can.  Anyways, $2 million dollars won’t be that much by the time you retire anyway.”

I think he was trying to get across to her this:

James 4:14 whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. 

Life is short at best.  We should make sure we take care of our problems the best we can & be ready always.  I also think he was trying to make sure she understood money & earthly possessions are not important.  They will all deteriorate in time.

Matthew 6:19- 21 says

 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Daddy has always made it clear what the Bible says about what is important.  I’m glad he takes the time to tell my kids about these life lessons.  Pretty thankful for my Daddy.  We laugh a lot when we are together.  Sometimes so much it’s hard to get our picture.  And by the way, this is one of my favorites right now:

Bday DaddyI hope you have had a great week.  It humbles me to know how blessed beyond measure I am.  Count your blessings.  They are everywhere!  Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.