The Willie & Waylon method of parenting

My brother, of whom I affectionately refer to as "Bud".

My brother, of whom I affectionately refer to as “Bud”.

 

It’s funny how everybody has opinions about how to raise kids.  Some things work for this kid.  Other tactics work for that one.  No two kids are exactly alike.  That’s for sure!  My mama, being the good Southern mother she was, had an unconventional approach to parenting.  It appears she used the “Willie Nelson/Waylon Jennings method”.  If you ain’t quite sure what in the world that is, just follow me down this rabbit trail for a bit.

Mama loved to listen to country music.  Willie & Waylon were 2 of her favorites.  The song, “Mamas Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Cowboys” was literally written about how to bring up your kids.  The lyrics go:

Mama don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys Don’t let ’em pick guitars and drive them old trucks Make ’em be doctors and lawyers and such

So, that’s just what mama did. She made sure my brother was raised with all the Southern graces & hospitality that a boy could be. He did not attend cotillion classes, however, was well versed in how to act right, carry on conversations with politeness, & mind his manners at the table. His learning came from being a preacher’s kid. My mama wouldn’t have her kids carrying on like a bunch of hooligans. He was to behave & “act like he had some raisins’ ”. She was the first to tell him when his behavior was less than stellar. Many times it could be a swift smack. My mama was a smacker. So you knew what was coming if you did step out of line.  Daddy was more of a belt man.  I saw this the other day & thought, yep, more people need to be buying  & using these.

Belt

Daddy did use the occasional ping pong paddle.  But, low & behold, it must not have done any permanent damage to Bud because, ya’ll, he grew up to be a lawyer. Just like Willie & Waylon used to sing about. And mama was so proud of him. She wouldn’t boast of it much, because, you know, not everybody’s boy got to be a lawyer. She didn’t want people to think for a second ANY of us had become high falootin’. (Because mama didn’t raise him to think he was better than anybody else. It must have really worked. He has passed that attribute on to his kids. Who are both a hoot & a half, but are very grounded in life.) I would say, if done right, the Willie & Waylon parenting method has some salt to it. For my brother, at least. It kept him from:

  1. Growing up to be a cowboy. (the kind that is a self seeking wanderer & never stays in one place for long at a time. Which we did think for awhile there he was going to be a bachelor for life. But thank the LORD for my sister-in-law, who changed all that for good.)  Mind you he has cleaned many a barn stalls, rode horses, tended to hogs, chickens, dogs, cats, & swam in the branch on hot summer days.
  2. Being a truck driver. Albeit, there are worse things to be. However, he has opted for a life off the road to make his living. Although, there was the time he moved to Atlanta to work. He lived in his car, ate on the run, & didn’t shower much. That’s kinda like a truck driver.
  3. Never staying home & always being alone. Let me say he would much rather be at home than traveling. It’s just something about sleeping in a house with all your peeps under one roof, that is good for the soul. There is always camaraderie going on with his bunch. Ne’er a dull moment.
  4. Loving smoky ole pool rooms. Mind you, he does love a friendly game of pool. He has never been the one to let leisure & responsibility collide. Being responsible & a rock for us all to lean on has always been his specialty. This is where I need to say he is God fearing, too.  Good people is what he is.
  5. Being hard to love. If you are around my brother, for any amount of time, & do not deem him likeable & more fun than a ride at the county fair, then you need to quit being such a stick in the mud. He’s always the life of the party. He loves to laugh. And ya’ll, he is quite the dancer. Not the kind of dancer that has any rhythm, but hey, he’s out there trying. You have to LOVE that. My kids think he is the BEST & hands down, I totally agree.

Bud olemiss

I know Father’s Day has just passed, but I did want to give a shout out to a WONDERFUL brother, daddy, & friend. He is a terrific brother that has such a great sister. Dadgum, he’s lucky.

Thank you for coming by to visit with me today.  I hope everybody had a good Father’s Day weekend.  We had a birthday we celebrated, as well.  It was outside & it was hot.  But we are into June with this year, so it was just as expected.  Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

Birthday boy in all his cuteness

Birthday boy in all his cuteness

Mr. Sweetie Pants enjoying the festivities.

Mr. Sweetie Pants enjoying the festivities.

What party is not complete without some water balloon action?

What party is not complete without some water balloon action?

 

And this guy.  He's always willing to play with the kids.  They are a bit smitten by him.

And this guy. He’s always willing to play with the kids. They are a bit smitten by him.

Sweet boys- they didn't care it was hot.

Sweet boys- they didn’t care it was hot.

 

Mother’s Day

Sunday is Mother’s Day.  A time to honor our mothers.  For those of us, who’s mothers are passed away, it sometimes can be a difficult time.  I have so many fond memories of my mother.  I don’t want to make you cry, like Bubba Watson did, when he won the Masters.  But if you saw it, who was the 1st one out to him once he made that last putt?  His mama.  He hugged her & bawled like a baby.  I can appreciate that.  I loved my Mama like that.  That’s why I suppose Mother’s Day can be so hard. Because I do miss her just as much now, as when she passed away.

I have been fortunate to have been loved by many mothers.  My own, of course, but my Mamaw, my Mama B., special aunts, & my mother in law.  All these wonderful ladies were & are strong women.  They taught me how to love my kids & other kids, too.  They gave me values, & taught me how to act. They made sure I did not shame my family by leaving home, without knowing how to cook.  They went to church, they loved their neighbors, they took meals to the sick, shut in & those that lost family members. They gave spankings & hugs.  They feared God. They have all been fine examples of what a wonderful Southern mother should be.

In Proverbs it tells of a virtuous woman.  It says:

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman?  For her worth is far above rubies.

In the following verses it tells what she does:

    1. She is good to her husband.
    2. She works.
    1. She provides food for whoever is in her house.
    1. She strengthens herself.
    1. She helps the poor.
    1. She speaks words with wisdom.
    2. She watches over her household & is not idle.
    3. She has her children & husband’s respect.

v.30       She fears God.

This is a terrific description that we should try to live by.  The ladies that I have spoken of above have conquered this list.  My prayer is that every lady strives to be as the virtuous woman.  It makes our houses much better to live in.  It brings happiness to our lives & the lives of others.  We should respect others & respect ourselves.  We should practice peace & love toward others.  The attitudes we cultivate can have a powerful effect on others.  Ask God to help you find reasons to rejoice instead of complain.  Respond to difficult situations with calm faith & trust God’s will.

May 24th, 2012 will mark 10 years since my Mama has passed away.  She was a remarkable woman.  I only pray that I can carry on the way she & my other female influences have taught me.  The author Rick Bragg said in a Southern Living article, “You never outgrow the need for your mother’s love.”  Whether you are a mother, grandmother, aunt, or friend, make a way to show that special mother like love to others.  If your mother is still living, please make an effort to see or talk to her this Mother’s Day.  I know she will be glad you did.  Happy Mother’s Day to all!

I hope you have enjoyed this post . Maybe it has inspired you in some way.   I would love to write more, but right now I have to go, because I should be washing clothes……

           Me & Mama when I was about 6 years old