We should care like Jesus does & why high school is a bad idea

Goodness gracious is it really just a few weeks until the kids go back to school? I just can’t with this. Miss Neenee is going to be in the 9th grade.

As in High. School.

I ask myself: “Why does she even need higher learning?” I love her just the way she is. But she is so excited to go. I just know with high school beginning, that means she will be flying out of our little nest before too many years. Which is not my favorite.

I am so over this already, y’all and it ain’t even started. Oh my word.  I’m trying my best not to make a mountain out of a mole hill, but GAH.

HIGH SCHOOL. MY BABY. TOO MUCH TO HANDLE.

Bless my heart. Y’all pray for me. Because dadgum it if I had my druthers we would still be here.

Not here.

Speaking of which, do you ever get so caught up with your own circus of problems, that you don’t notice what others have going on? I am so bad about this, unless someone just pretty much comes up to me & tells me what’s happening, I don’t even pay attention to what’s all around me. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that I have such a heapin’, helpin’ of this life stuff happening, that I may fail to look at what others are going through. That’s not always good.

This past Sunday, our Sunday School teacher was talking about Jesus. He was mentioning the fact that Jesus helped people & we should be willing to do the same thing. He was talking about how Jesus healed the woman, that had an issue of blood. She had so much faith, that she knew if she could just get to Jesus & touch the hem of his garment, her troubles would be over.

Matthew 9:20-22

 And suddenly, a woman who had a flow of blood for twelve years came from behind and touched the hem of His garment. 21 For she said to herself, “If only I may touch His garment, I shall be made well.” 22 But Jesus turned around, and when He saw her He said, “Be of good cheer, daughter; your faith has made you well.” And the woman was made well from that hour.

 

A sweet hearted lady at church made mention of just that fact people may still be reaching out to touch His garment. When they do, we need to be ready to help. Her point was this, people are hurting. They need the same healing Jesus gave that woman. If others around us reach out to us, we need to be ready to point them to Jesus. I know some may be reluctant to lend a helping hand to others because

A. What do you even say to a person that is in dire straits?

And

B. Who am I to get into someone else’s business?

If you see someone that you know has had a hard time or is having a hard time, sometimes just saying, “I’m praying for you, would you like to talk?” or “What can I do to make things easier for you?” or “Here’s my cell number. Text me & let’s go out to eat.”  Are  WONDERFUL ways to begin. Then, be there to lend an ear, or meet for lunch, or whatever the other person feels comfortable with. Now let me tell you, I am the worst one in the world to accept help from others. I will scratch and claw and knash my teeth before I will give up and take someone’s offer of help. I have this stubborn way of thinking that I have to do everything on my own. It may be a pride thing or just being bull headed. But there are times I have to step back & say, “This is too much.” Then, members of my personal support team come in and rescue me. (**Personal support team = my wonderful, unjudging family & friends**)

The kind hearted lady I was talking about, just a minute ago, is actually a doctor. She counsels and is basically a super hero. She made mention of the fact that people need to understand they do not have to walk around with the weight of the world on their shoulders. People need to realize there is help out there. It’s through us as Christians that we need to be willing to reach out and help others. I heard a preacher say once,

“People are hurting. They need to know we care & they need to know about the love of Jesus.”

You just never know what the person right beside you is going through.

AND you don’t have to be up in someone’s business to help. Simply just saying, “I’m here if you need me.” Or “I have been thinking about you.” Or how about, “I love you.” Plain & simple. Sometimes just knowing you have support is the best medicine. If the other person does need help, hopefully, this will open the door for them to tell you that.

I can remember my mama telling me more than once,

“Don’t let things get in sucha mess. You would have been so much better off if you had of let somebody help you.”

Yes, yes I could have.  But my “I can do it myself” got in the way with reality. Which was “I really could use help, like last week.” I guess I just don’t like to admit I can’t HANDLE IT ALL. Which is really silly of me because I have help around every corner, if I would only quit thinking I am less of a person for needing help. And you know my Personal Support Team I made mention of? Every time I ask one of them to help me out, they are more than glad to. It goes without saying, it would be advisable for me to not think I am too good to ask or receive help because like my Mama Boyce used to say:

“Lawdy, chile, you know better than that.”

So, to recap:

  1. Realize there are people that need help.
  2. Be prepared to help others.
  3. Let others help you,

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. It has been hotter than blue blazes here. Which is great if you can stay under the air conditioning all the time. Otherwise, it can be a smidge inconvenient because hair and makeup are not a fan of humidity. More than once in the past few weeks I have declared: I’ma ’bout to burn up! Miss Neenee is at band camp this week and next week. Pray that she remembers to put on her sunscreen, bless her red faced heart. Until next time, I should be going because I should be washing clothes.

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Don’t tell me to smile & what to do when it sunshines

 

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In life, I have found this to be true- you just never know what someone else is going through. The other day, I was at the pharmacy picking up my medicine.  There was a man ahead of me.  I was practicing waiting patiently.  I say practicing, because there are times I get sorta disgruntled, when I have to wait.  These days, I am so busy, that having to wait on someone else can put me out a tad.  This previous statement comes from the same lady that is the biggest time waster that ever was, which also has a love hate relationship with time management.  So, I know, I need to clean off my own door step before I even consider making mention of anyone else.  There, since that elephant is out of the room, I was standing in line at the pharmacy when I noticed the lady behind the counter looking sort of perturbed.  The man, in front of me left, & I stepped up to the counter.  I told the pharmacy tech what I was after & she got my bag.  As she was ringing it up, she said,

“Do you know what that man said to me?  He told me to smile.”

Then she shared with me how her daughter had run away from home at 18 years old.  She said she had not seen her in several years.  She said she had heard her daughter had gotten married & actually only lived a few miles from her house.  She said some days it was all she did- was to think of her daughter.

She then said, “You know with that on my mind, sometimes it’s just hard to smile.”

At that point I felt I needed to share with her the 5 cent version of the situation with my son.  I told her my 23 year old son left home several years ago.  That he’d had 2 car wrecks (while under the influence) & chose to do drugs & drink, still. Now.  BUT, that God was good & he took care of things in His own way & time.  I told her I would be praying for her & she said she would be thinking of me, too.

Nahum 1:7 says

The Lord is good, A stronghold in the day of trouble; And He knows those who trust in Him. (NKJV)

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Lord have mercy! Who in the world would have known that innocent little drug store visit would have been a chance to encourage somebody?  You just never know what other people are going through.  That’s why I HATE it when some well-meaning person tells me to smile.

If I look that disheartened, just ignore me, or say“Bless your heart,” or how about “Have a good day”?

Those kinds of things would be much better than,

“Smile, it can’t be that bad.” 

Really?  Because you don’t know if my heart has just been ripped out & stomped flat by somebody I love or if I am doing ALL I can to put one foot in front of the other or if I’m just sour person.  Why take the chance?  Just be nice.  That’s all we need anyway.  A little kindness.

The apostle Paul gave this commandment to the church at Ephesus:

Ephesians 4:32

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. (NKJV)

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That means I need to be kind & you need to be kind, because God was kind to us.  He sent His son to die on the cross for our sins.  Do you think God was smiling when He did that?  Probably not.  And I bet nobody was saying to God that day:

“Smile, it’s not that bad.” 

Because you know what?  Sometimes it just is that bad & we need to be kind & tenderhearted toward each other.  Many times people need compassion.  Not somebody barking at them to get over it.  What if they don’t know how?  We need to be ever mindful of others.  It’s just considerate.  Be prepared to help & encourage whenever you go.  Kind words will melt a broken heart quicker than anything.

Thank you for stopping by to visit with me today.  Sunshine! Finally, coming through these windows.  Loving this 60 degree January weather. What exactly do you do when it sunshines?  You get out & enjoy it.  Just like we did.

Playing with rocks, no less.

Playing with rocks, no less.

Always a good time with a rock.

Always a good time with a rock.

And this cute puppy dog.

And this cute puppy dog.

I hope you have a blessed week.  Until next time, I should be going because I should be washing clothes.

photo credits: k.love.com,www.dianalamb.com

How I had my faith strengthened & it’s ok to pick up your dirty socks

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You know, I never get tired of having my faith strengthened. God is such a working God.  He is on time, every time.  This past week, a sweet friend shared with me a beautiful story of God being hard at work in her life.

A friend of mine has been going through some trials. She has had her fair share of ups & downs here of late.  Sometimes, during the week, we may just get a minute to share what we have going on.  At times, it’s just a shaking of our heads in passing, saying- “Pray for me.”  And we do.  That’s why when she sent me a quick message, this week, I knew our prayers were being heard.  My friend’s mother has been in poor health.  She is older & is having quite a time.  My friend & her sister have been wearing themselves to a frazzle trying to take care of her.  Her doctor had discussed with my friend & her family about moving her to an assisted living center.  Of course, there goes more sleepless nights for my friend.  She knew in her head this was what was best for her mama.  But her heart kept tugging at her to keep her at home. When the day finally came to talk to her mama about staying in an assisted living home, her mama was just fine with it.  The doctor talked to her mama & explained to her this was what she needed right now.  She was all in.  No kicking, screaming, spittin’, cussin’ or anything, from my friend or her mama.  My friend was so thankful to the Lord & relieved.  She knew it was the prayers of hers & her family & friends that made it all work out.

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Change is hard. Sickness & getting older is hard.  There comes a time that we have to make decisions we don’t want to.  We have responsibilities to others.  And sometimes those hard decisions may have to do with our parents.  I know for me, when my mama got so sick, it was awful.  It was especially heartbreaking to have to move her to a place with 24 hour nurse care.   Nobody wants to have to move a loved one from their own home, to somewhere strange & unknown- even for their own good.  But with a lot of prayer, we did what we had to do.  We put our heart to the side & went with what our head told us to do.  Our main goal was to take care of her needs.  That’s what I told my friend, the last time we talked about her sweet mama.  “Remember, this is something to work out in your head, not your heart.”  She did the right thing.  She asked the Lord for help.  I think sometimes we don’t receive because we don’t ask.

Sadly very true....

Sadly very true….

James 1:6 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.

Just like anything, our asking has conditions. We must ask for things that are Godly & for the glory of the Lord.  Not for our own selfish benefit.

James 4:3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.

I think it was wonderful that my friend took all of this to our Lord. He was the One that made the difference.  We must rely on God’s divine will.  Not ours.

I am so glad you stopped by to visit with me today. Have I told you lately that I’m happy you are here?  I appreciate the time you give to coming by this little blog.  I also wanted to take this time to apologize to the cable man that came to fix our internet this week.  I am sorry you had to see my husband’s dirty socks on my bedroom floor.  I had fully intended on being home to pick them up before you got there.  Don’t worry.  I gave him a good scolding.  Since he was the one that let you back there anyway.  Trust me.  I know the talking to I gave him did a lot of good.  Because his dirty socks, he took off last night, were perhaps in the exact same area this morning.  I do love that man.  Even though he is a non-dirty sock picker upper.    I hope everyone has a blessed weekend.  As for me, I will be doing a little sewing for my granddaughter.  She’s got to have some new things for fall & Christmas.  I will share some of it with you, soon.  Until then, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

 

Oh & p.s. Happy 3rd birthday today to Mr. Sweetie Pants!!

KADE SUNGLASSES

 

 

 

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My sweet helper & Someone who needs no help

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My little girl loves to help.  She especially loves to help me & her Daddy cook.  She has become quite the baker.  She got cupcake pans, cake pans, and a lot of bakery paraphernalia for Christmas last year.  I have to say she has put it to good use.  She loves to help her Daddy in food prep for the grilling he does.  She has her hands in the muffin mix & can peel boiled eggs like nobody’s business.  I love having her around to help me out.

 Miss Neenee's cupcakes before going in the oven.

Miss Neenee’s cupcakes before going in the oven.

Do you know there is Somebody who does not need my help?  That would be the Lord.  You see, He is quite capable of doing whatever He deems necessary, without my input.  Sometimes it’s easy to try to compare ourselves to others.

I think, “What should I be doing about this or that?” 

You know what?  Jesus has it all handled.  There are times, I just need to have faith & sit back & let Him have his way.  Isn’t that hard, though?  When you pray & want a situation, a person, or a relationship, to be like you want it all to be- it may not always come out exactly like you had it envisioned.

So, I get to thinking, “How can I make this better?” 

Next, I may do or say something that doesn’t help the situation at all.

Or I may think, “I’m doing all I can do to be a Christian.  Why, then, are things going so great for this one over here, that’s well, not?”

Again, I need to remember, the Lord doesn’t need my help.  Just because I don’t see Him working behind the scenes, does not mean He is not.

The apostle Peter found out Jesus does not need our help either.  He questioned the Lord about the person He had predicted would betray Him.  It’s not said why Peter wanted to know who it was.  Maybe curiosity was getting the best of him.  Or maybe he wanted to help or protect his friend from someone.  Jesus let him know right quick that He had it handled.

John 21

20 Then Peter, turning around, saw the disciple whom Jesus loved following, who also had leaned on His breast at the supper, and said, “Lord, who is the one who betrays You?” 21 Peter, seeing him, said to Jesus, “But Lord, what about this man?”

22 Jesus said to him, “If I will that he remain till I come, what is that to you? You follow Me.”

23 Then this saying went out among the brethren that this disciple would not die. Yet Jesus did not say to him that he would not die, but, “If I will that he remain till I come, what is that to you?”

Peter’s attention needed to be focused on following Jesus.  The Lord had a much bigger agenda for Peter than worrying about who was going to wrong Him.  Jesus was pretty much trying to tell him,

“What business is it of yours?”

 I need to remember that.  I need to make sure my focus is on Jesus.  Not on who is wronging me, who has a nicer house than me, or who makes more money than me.  Jesus was trying to tell Peter & He is trying to tell me to have faith in Him & I won’t have anything to worry about.  When the worries & stresses of this ol’ world try to beat us down, we have got to remember Who we have on our side.  Even when we don’t realize it, He is working in our lives for good.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today.  We have had rain, rain, and then some more rain.  But you know what?  I have seen some of the most beautiful rainbows…there’s a blog post for another time!  I hope you have a great week.  I have to be going for now, because I should be washing clothes.