Wedding planning for dummies 101

So, if you really want to know what I have been doing lately, it’s been some of this:

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It goes without saying there is not a day that goes by that wedding plans are not discussed. There’s a lot of thought, & preparation, & planning, & sometimes tension. Because ya’ll it’s hard to decide if you want navy napkins with foil coral writing or coral napkins with matte navy writing & there are so many cute sayings they put on them now-a-days. Back in my day, when they used to sell a pair of curtains in the pack, you didn’t have to worry too much about things like that. But that was a gazillion years ago. Now that my little ones are tying the knot, it’s A LOT of planning & stress, I tell you. A LOT. It’s just that you have things thrown at you, that you just aren’t accustom to answering, like how much lace & burlap can you glue on a mason jar without it looking purely like our grandkids did them & what trim should you have the invitations in? Square, rounded, squiggly, the corners cut out, & other shapes that I have never really considered before. (By the way, the last 2 of those trims may or may not be actual descriptions. But you get the picture.) And DON’t get me started about fonts. Goodness gracious. Decisions YA’LL.

We do get to have a lot of fun conversations, while pouring over what size buckets we should put baby’s breath in. Some are about how much a responsibility it is to be married. You are basically becoming someone else’s caretaker. Because you know: MEN. And too, how you are in charge of feeding your family meals, washing the clothes & the dishes (even when you just don’t want to) & how they do get sick & it’s pretty much a guarantee they consider themselves much worse off than anybody in the ICU part of the local hospital. Then, how unselfish you have to become because real love has to do with sacrifice. You have to have a heart of a servant. And if all that’s not trying enough, you sprinkle some kids in the mix & wa-lah! You are full on loaded down with commitments & what have you. At some point she jokingly wanted to know was I trying to talk her out of all this?? Never would I. But ya’ll marriage is serious & evidently many don’t take it that way. Because hello, TRUE LOVE, ya’ll. Some of the stuff that goes with it like starry eyedness & ooey gooeyness, just doesn’t always last as long as it should. I just want some reality to be spoken. Sorry, I just don’t want her to be in total shock the 57.379th time she has to remind her sweet husband to put his socks in the dirty clothes, that no matter how much you want to hurt him in a real bad way, you have to pick your battles. This will be a good time for her to practice up on her favorite songs from the song book at church. Because she will be needing to sing a few verses of Amazing Grace, to herself once her patience starts to run out.

The apostle Paul talks about what true love is in I Corinthians 13:4-7

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

 

That’s a lot of stuff! If we are going to love another, as the Lord wants us to, we have to be patient, kind, & put their best interests first. Our needs become less of an importance to us & theirs become more to us. We shouldn’t be jealous & want what others have. And we cannot be full or ourselves. That will never work. It may all seem like it’s too much, but it’s all a work in process, ya know? I know my daughter & her soon to be husband will be happy as larks, once all this wedding stuff is over. Just pray for them & their new life together. You can never get too much prayer.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. It’s been a beautiful Mississippi day. Why, it was 63 degrees this morning, as I drove in to work. I talked to someone this morning, in Houston, Texas. They said before 10am, it was already 90 degrees. Sorry, Houston. Maybe cooler weather is coming your way. Sounds like fall could be right around the corner for us! Until the leaves turn brown & the smell of cinnamon & apples is coming from my kitchen, again, I have be going because I should be washing clothes.

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One of a kind mothers & Happy Mother’s Day

 

 MOTHERS DAY

As Mother’s Day is approaching, I find it fitting I talk about some special mothers.

Maw

My grandmothers had hearts of a servant.  My Mamaw could not sit & enjoy much of anything when it came to meal time.  Meal time was her time to shine.  She was a wonderful cook.  When you were at her house, you were her guest.  And let me tell you, she was not going to have her guest WANT for anything.  She was just not that kind of hostess.  When we ate, she would sit beside my Papaw.  There she was at the best angle to hop up & get anything you would need.  If you needed a spoon, she could hop up & be at the silverware drawer in an instant.  If you needed more sweet tea, the jug was on the counter right behind her.  She thoroughly enjoyed serving her family & friends.  Not just at mealtime, but whatever we needed, she was there with helping hands.  She sewed for us, she gardened, she made quilts, so that we could keep warm in the winter, she tended to chickens, cows, and the occasional dog or cat.  Most importantly, she tended to people.  She kept her grandchildren during the summer & after school.  And any other time in between.  She visited & sat with people who were sick.  Thank the Good Lord my Papaw passed on before her.  He would have been completely useless without her.  She did everything for him.  When he worked at the TVA, she got up every morning & made him biscuits, eggs, & some sort of porkish meat.  These weren’t my beloved frozen biscuits or canned biscuits.  These were the real deal.  Every day.  When my Mama got so sick, she came & sat with her every day.  She cooked, cleaned, & took care of Mama until Mamaw passed away suddenly one night in her sleep.  That’s just who she was.  A wonderful Christian servant at heart.

Mama Boyce

My Mama Boyce was also a true servant.  She had 10 children.  She pretty much lived for her family.  She cooked & cleaned & took care of chickens, dogs, cats, & what have you.  She gardened like nobody’s business.  This little lady had a green thumb if I’ve ever seen one. She had the most beautiful roses I’d ever seen.  To this day, I tell you, I’ve never seen one as pretty.  She loved flowers & plants.  She cooked the best green beans I have ever put in my mouth.  She enjoyed having us at her house.  She took such good care of us.  Sometimes to a fault.  I can remember being young & getting in trouble for sitting in the living room calling to her to bring me a drink or a peanut butter & jelly sandwich or whatever it was my little heart desired.  My daddy told me my grandmother was NOT there to wait on me hand & foot. That I should get up & get what I needed for myself.  Funny how he would have even known about this behavior except I probably made my brother mad & he spilled the beans about my bossy pants.  She kept her house spotless.  She was always willing to help others, just like it was her job.  She was so humble, too.  That only comes from the heart of a servant.

Luke 22:27 says

27 For who is greater, he who sits at the table, or he who serves? Is it not he who sits at the table? Yet I am among you as the One who serves.

Joshua made sure he served the right One.

Joshua 24:15

And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” 

Jesus had no trouble telling the devil Who to serve:

Matthew 4:10

Then Jesus said to him, “Away with you, Satan! For it is written, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.’”

Growing up,  I am so blessed to have had faithful women around me.  My Mama, Mamaw, Mama Boyce, & mother in law all served a great God.   They laid the foundation for our family.  They are the reasons I do a lot of the things I do today.  They taught me how to treat others.  They taught me how to handle difficulties in life.  By their examples, they taught me how to be a good wife & mother.  Because they were the BEST.  All of the before mentioned have passed on.  If your mother, grandmother or someone who was like a mother or grandmother to you is still with you, be sure to let them know you love them.  Not just on Mother’s Day, but as often as you can.  I know they will be so glad you did.  AND let us not forget those who are “motherless” on Mother’s Day.  That can prove to be a tough day.  A kind word to those of us can be deeply appreciated as well.

Mama I

I hope you have a blessed day today.  I am so thankful you dropped by.  What will you be doing this Mother’s Day weekend?  We will have kids & grandkids over.  When they are around, the interesting level at my house hits an all time high.  It is always a fun time!  Until then, I will be going, because I should be washing clothes.

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