What’s in your cup & remember how I told you high school was a bad idea?

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in your cup, you would have spilled tea. The point is whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, “What’s in my cup?” When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words, and reactions come out? You choose! Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness, and love for others.

Y’all. I didn’t write that above paragraph, myself. It was copied from a post I saw on Facebook. But BOY did it hit home. Did I tell you what happened to me when I went to register Miss Neenee for high school? We were inside the school. She wanted to see where her classes were. And of course I was excited to climb the stairs and walk all over kingdom come (just kidding, I was not). After my new high schooler had gotten her fill of the visions of classrooms, lockers, hall ways, & perfectly decorated bulletin boards, we headed to the car. When we walked out of the building toward the parking lot, we were greeted by 2 enthusiastic and information bearing kids.

One of the boys said to my excited new  high schooler, “Are you a trumpet player?”

In which my trumpeter replied, “Yeah.”

Then, the boy replied, “Well, your car just got hit.”

WHAT??

Evidently, I must have had that look, because here came the band director. Walking from the site of the accident toward me.

There was a short conversation between the band director & I. He briefly told me a young man accidently backed into my car. He said he the young man was very sorry & had social anxiety. Basically, the kid was afraid I was going to come out with all fists flying, pitching a dying duck dog fit about my car. I looked down the way at the worried & scared look on the boy’s face & immediately felt bad for him. I walked down to my car with my daughter following behind me. Even though this was a situation I wish I didn’t have to deal with, I thought it was a teachable moment. As I walked up & looked at the HUGE dent in my bumper,

I looked over at the boy & said, “Are you okay?” He was so nervous.

He muttered out, “Yes ma’am. I’m really sorry.”

I said, “Don’t worry about it. We can fix cars. We can’t always fix people.” I smiled at him & you could tell he felt more at ease. Now when his dad showed up, I’m not so sure what he felt. But his dad & I exchanged pleasantries and insurance information. The law showed up to make their report & as we departed the parking lot, the young man told me again he was sorry. I let him know if this was the worst thing that ever happened to him, he would be ok. Things happen.

Was this an inconvenience? Yes. Was everyone okay? Yes. Could I have showed out and acted a fool? Probably. But what good would that have done? It wouldn’t have changed the fact my car still needed repair. But, what spilled out of my cup, that time, was forgiveness, patience, & hopefully kindness. Do I always act on my best behavior? Probably not. I am human & sometimes I do say & act in a way that my mama would be ashamed of. However, I can get it together every so often, more so than on other occasions.

What’s in your cup today? Is it filled with hate, spite, & an unforgiving spirit? When you are shaken, does your cup spill out bitterness & sharp words? Or does it spill out thankfulness, compassion, & warmhearted actions?

I Peter 3: 8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; (NKJV)

Are your ways prideful & judgmental? Or are they filled with mercy & grace?

Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.(NKJV)

Romans 14:13 Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother’s way.(NKJV)

Since I have gotten a little older, I seem to be of the opinion, kindness needs to be deliberate & practiced ALL THE TIME. You never know what someone might be going through. And believe me I have never came across anyone without problems. You may be the only light they see in a world of gloom & doom. This world needs love. Why don’t we make an effort to show the Christ like love we would want shown to us? Life is a circle. What comes around, goes around. You get what you give out. So, next time someone gives you a short answer, just smile & kindly thank them. They may have just gotten some really bad news. Or they could just have their cup filled with some stinkin’ rotten things. Either way, your kind heart might just change their way of thinking. If not, you will be still be doing the right thing.

Like my Mamaw used to say, “Don’t act ugly.”

Y’all, can I say we have just been enjoying the fire out of Miss Neenee being in the band? This means we have a reason to go to the football games again. And boy do we love it. We did however make mention how we miss my son-in-law there. He is deployed right now. He loves sports and competition and yelling for our team. So much, that my daughter may or may not have to tell him to sit down before he gets thrown out of the game. He gets a bit riled up. And we love him for it. I hope your weather has been pleasant. Someone said fall is beginning. I’m not sure where they are, but here in northeast MS it is still HOT AS BLUE BLAZES. I hope you all have a relaxing weekend. We will be at the ballgame tonight cheering on our little trumpet player. Until next time I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

 

Look at that game face.Almost got her to smile.Yes this is a HUGE football helmet with smoke billowing out of it. We are just fancy like that.

Football good times.

photo credits: Facebook, http://www.ellenlandreth.wordpress.com, pinterest

 

 

 

One Word for 2018

I’m not sure if you make New Year’s Resolutions or not. I always bust mine wide open by about week 2. I have always felt like such a failure with my resolutions. Because of that, for the past several years I have made a One Word Resolution.

One Word is a word you remember, pray about, pay attention to, & is basically your courage key to make yourself better in the new year.

This year my One Word is FOCUS.

What does that mean? It means, in 2018,  I will discipline myself to focus intentionally on my life.  I will focus on my work. I will focus on what the Lord is wanting me to learn in all situations. I will focus on others. I will look deeper into God’s Word and FOCUS.

So, who’s with me?  I will tell you, if you want to be a better version of you. If you want to have a plan in the forefront of your mind. If you want to have your life changed, this is for you. This little plan has done all of that for me. Come on & join me in One Word! What have you got to lose?

Here are some other One Words I have had in the past-

Trust

Courage

Pray

Gratitude

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. I hope you are having a blessed week. Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

If you want to read more about One Word, click here.

Thanksgiving thoughts and remember to be thankful for what you don’t have

 

Thanksgiving is two days away. As in TWO.DAYS. How many are feeling overwhelmed? I know that guy hangs around my door step a lot. Believe you me, there are times I feel more overwhelmed than anything else. What does this mean? Does it mean I am letting things of the world over take my faith in God? Does it mean I am not trusting in the Lord? Does it mean I have lots of responsibilities and I just keep adding more? Those are some things I want to address today. Because those of you who know me, know I am a fountain of got it together & follow through. Ha. LOL. OTFL. Or whatever hashtag these young’uns use now a days.

With all the things we have going on, cooking for the holidays, taking care of kids, running a household, trying to be the best version of you, health problems, money problems, & basically just problems, it’s no wonder we meet ourselves coming. When we feel like we can’t anymore, remember the Lord says we can:

Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.(NKJV)

Psalm 27:1 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.(NKJV)

Psalm 34:17 The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears,
And delivers them out of all their troubles.(NKJV)

I Peter 5:7 casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.(NKJV)

The Lord wants to help the hurting & those that are needy, not the got it all togethers. If you are spending time in prayer, then you are have time well spent. Anytime you can have a conversation with the Lord, it’s not time wasted. There’s a beauty in the struggle that we don’t always realize. Within every problem, there is opportunity. Opportunity for change. Opportunity for seeing things a different way. Opportunity for learning. Don’t look at problems as the end of the world. Instead, see them as a lesson learned. See them as the Lord molding us into stronger, better people. Calm waters never make good sailors. Be thankful the Lord wants to equipt us for bigger things. And accept it. We, as people, want to tell God what is best for us. Instead of realizing God’s already got it all handled.

Here are some things that might help you keep it between the ditches:

  1. Pray- Pray small prayers throughout the day. Or plan for prayer. Whether it be at the beginning of your day, at lunch, or when you go to bed. Just make sure you are keeping the conversation going with God. That in itself will help you more than you can ever imagine.
  2. Make lists- I am a list person. If I don’t I get so easily overwhelmed. I have always heard the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. So, I try to break things down as I go. Knowing I am preparing Thanksgiving breakfast & dinner, I start out with a menu. Then, I make a list of what I will need to make everything. I also make a list of what we will need at the meal. I make a list of my groceries. I make a list of what I am going to prepare 1st, 2nd , 3rd. Because that is easier to me than thinking I am responsible for making our Thanksgiving meals perfect & memorable for my dear family. See what I did there? Lists make me sane. The thought of high expectations overwhelm me.
  3. Let people help you- Don’t think you have to do everything by yourself. If someone says, “What can I do to help?” Then by golly, have them something to do. Me & my sweetie handle the main Thanksgiving meal. The girls do the desserts. It just works out.
  4. Read your Bible- What better way to feel peace & a calm about you, than to spend time in God’s Word? Prayer is talking to the Lord. That’s important. But letting God talk to you, through the Bible, is important, too.
  5. Get away-Sometimes just getting away to clear your head makes all the difference in the world. If you can’t take a two week vacation to the Bahamas, you can get up, walk outside, and take a deep breath of fresh air. Changing your scenery by taking a drive or a walk always seems to put things in a better perspective.
  6. Thank the Lord for what you don’t have. Sickness in your family, dealing with children that have lost their way, money problems, hungry mouths to feed and nothing to feed them, your own personal health problems, a car that won’t start, worn out tires, those are lots of terrible things to have to encounter. But what if you don’t have a sick child or your health is pretty good right now? Thanking the Lord for what you have is important. However, thanking Him for what you don’t have is just as crucial to having a thankful spirit.

I hope you all are doing good this TWO DAYS BEFORE THANKSGIVING. I know, I can’t get over it either. We have had some wonderful weather happening here in northeast Mississippi. The leaves are changing and the air is crisp. Just what the doctor ordered! Until next time I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

photo credit- someecards, pinterest,

Happy Thanksgiving ya’ll

Here are a few Thanksgiving things I have located around on the local intranet.  They seemed to tickle me.  Hope you enjoy them as well.  Happy Thanksgiving, ya’ll!

Don' mind if I do.

Don’t mind if I do.

THanksgiving III

Praying for all y'all.

Praying for all y’all.

Piglet always has such wisdom.

Piglet has always been a fountain of wisdom.  I like that guy.

And don’t forget if you need any Thanksgiving help, this little gem over at Southern Plate has never failed to pile on a big heaping helping of recipes.

Click here for deliciousness.

Click here for deliciousness.

Love y’all like sweet potato casserole & turkey & dressing.

photo credits:  http://www.copiouscouples.tumblr.com, pinterest, somecards

One Word for 2015

one word

I had been thinking about my One Word for 2015.  In 2014 it was Pray.  With that, I focused my year on prayer.  With prayer always being in the forefront of my mind, I saw things in my life start to change.  I am so glad I took the time to focus on prayer.  It has made the world of difference.  So, it goes without saying, while I was doing all this praying, I began to feel more thankful.  It has truly been a humbling time.  I gave it some thought (with some help from my friend Falen) & have declared Gratitude as my One Word for 2015.  I want to keep this thankful vibe going.  It sure does make things more peaceful in my life.   When I am thankful, I become richer.  I become happier.  I become more humbled.  I become mindful of the fact, I don’t “do” all of this myself.  I have Someone greater, wiser, & more concerned about me than anybody else, watching out for me.  That’s where the peace of mind comes in.  Realizing the Lord cares for me.  Little ol’ me!  That makes me feel good.  Like chocolate gravy & biscuits good.

I saw where Falen had announced her One Word on Facebook.  I immediately commented as to where she snagged her beautiful button.  She made it.  And because she is AWESOME on a daily basis, she offered to make me one.  Here it is:

one word 2015 I

From this One Word, I will focus on being thankful & grateful this year.  I can’t wait to see what 2015 has in store for us!  God’s blessings were all over the place last year.  I know He will bless us in 2015.  And p.s. THANK YOU Falen for taking your time to create this gorgeous new addition to my side bar!

Ephesians 5:20 giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ (NKJV)

I hope you have made some goals for 2015.  I have my list & want to do my best to put them into action.  I am even doing a Bible study with Melanie over at Only a Breath.  I know it will bless my heart.  Go on over & get your daily dose of blessings, too.  Until then, I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.

Why I like Thanksgiving & being thankful for what you already have

thanksgiving tillhecomes.org

 I Thessalonians 5:18 in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 

As everyone knows, that does not live under a rock, this Thursday is Thanksgiving.  I have always liked Thanksgiving for many reasons.  Here are a few:

1.  I get to see my family that I love.  Especially the ones from out of town.  I am turning into my Mamaw.  If it’s a holiday or Sunday dinner, my loved ones are required to be at my house.  And if not, I just won’t ever understand what else could be so important that you could not have your feet under my table for that time.  I just love them that much.

2. Thanksgiving is leisure time.  Not like that other holiday that is coming up next month.  Thanksgiving is cooking & eating & visiting.  You are really not required to do anything except cook, eat, & visit.  That’s easy.  Oh & watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade & football games.  Plus, we enjoy a little Just Dance, on the Wii, at our house as well.  Miss Neenee’s usual response when I play is,

“Mama quit. You are embarrassing yourself.”

3. We eat our way through the whole holiday.  I begin by hosting Thanksgiving breakfast.  We fill our bellies full of biscuits, Mama’s breakfast casserole, quiche, homemade Danish, bacon, sausage, & various & asundry jellies, preserves, & whatever else I can come up with.  Then, once that’s over, we go for the meal with the star of the show- the smoked turkey.  There’s dressing(not stuffing), cranberry sauce, beans, corn, salads, shells & cheese, casseroles, rolls, so much I can’t name it all.  And desserts that will make you want to slap yo’ mama & draw back at your daddy.  **On a side note, speaking of which, my Daddy has already proclaimed his Thanksgiving day plans are to eat breakfast at my house, then, go back to one of the bedrooms & sleep until we wake him up for dinner. **  I love a well thought out plan.

4. Me & my sweetie get to cook together.  It just all comes full circle.  We love to eat.  So, cooking together makes it just that much more fun.

5.  No stressing out.   I have my menu made weeks in advance.  I get my groceries bought up.  We plan when we are cooking what.  We execute our plan.  If anything goes amiss, it’s ok.  It’s all family.  They don’t care.  Not like Christmas.  My hair will be falling out before Christmas Eve.  Seriously.  It happens every year.  You don’t have to worry about presents on Thanksgiving or making sure everything is just right.  I leave that for next month.

So you see, I try my best, to celebrate Thanksgiving the way it should be.  Being thankful for what the Lord has so graciously blessed us with.  I read an article that has suggested showing gratitude is a lot more healthier for us than not being thankful- even for the everyday things.  You can read 20 Mind Blowing things about Gratitude here.  I do want to mention Bro. Brad preached an excellent sermon on Sunday- pinpointing being thankful.  He said he had read a story about a preacher that was always thankful.  He said one of the negative Nancy’s of the congregation came in thinking there was no way the preacher would find anything to be thankful for that day.  It was nasty outside.  Raining, wind blowing, terrible weather.  When the preacher got up to pray, he said,

“Thank you, Lord, that not all days are like this.”

What a wonderful attitude of gratitude.  There is always something to be thankful for.  The blanket on our bed, that keeps us warm a night.  The roof over our heads.  Hot water.  Shoes. Our sight.  Things that oftentimes we take for granted.  We as a society are so funny.  Because you know what the day after Thanksgiving is- Black Friday.

black-friday-ecardSad, but true.

I am glad you stopped by to visit with me today.  I so hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.  Like every year, I will be so happy to be surrounded by friends & family.  However, will be missing my Mama, too.  She loved a celebration.  No matter what it was for.  Happy Thanksgiving, ya’ll!!  Until next time I will be going because I should be washing clothes.

thanksgivng scriptursphoto credits: someecards.com, tilhecomes.org, thanksgiving scripture

30 Days of Gratitude

Day 10sirius radio I am so very thankful for Sirius Radio on my desktop…..ahhh, we are somewhat best friends right now.  Notice Elvis Radio playing…… “happy sigh” 🙂

Day 11OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI am thankful for these 2 sweeties & the memories we are making with Mr. Sweetie Pants.  He loves driving the tractor with his Pap.

Day 12candy on thursI am thankful every Thursday, I get chocolate left on my pillow by my sweetie.  He has been doing this for quite sometime.  He just needs to keep this up, because it really does make a girl happy.

Day 13girls at moviesI am thankful for this group of sweet girls that Miss Neenee loves.  They are just what the doctor ordered, when it comes to wonderful friends.  They are all very kind & well behaved.

Day 14OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI am thankful Miss Neenee has learned to drive the tractor.  It’s about time.  She is 10 for goodness sakes!

Day 15

patient santaI am certainly thankful for this patient Santa.  This was Mr. Sweetie Pants 1st visit with Santa.  Well, you see how it went. bless his heart.  Once they were finished, we whisked the baby away.  I turned to see Miss Neenee patting Santa on the back, apologizing for the situation.  She’s such a little peacemaker.

Day 16skyI am thankful for this beautiful morning sky.  Now really, how can you look at this & not know there is a Lord Jesus Christ in heaven?  Things like this just make me feel all warm & fuzzy inside.

 

 

 

An attitude of gratitude

With Thanksgiving on the way, it is a great time to think about being grateful.  We should make gratitude a way of life, each day of the year.  Let me challenge you with a couple of things.

1. Pay attention to the simple, small, gifts God brings into your life everyday.  Things like hot showers, reliable transportation, electricity, clean running water, work to do, friends and family to see, and food to eat.

2. Accept each day as a gift.  Create & cultivate a thankful spirit.  You find what you look for.  So, focus on reasons to be grateful.  Your gratitude will color your attitude and make you more inspiring to be around.

3. Make a list of all the things & people around you that make you smile.  Post it on the refrigerator door as a reminder of what you are grateful for.

I am reminded of the lepers that Jesus healed.  There were a group of 10 of them, but only 1 came back & said “Thank you.” (Luke 17:11-19)

When one of them saw that he was healed, he came back. He praised God in a loud voice. He threw himself at Jesus’ feet and thanked Him.Luke 17:15

Let’s make sure we show our gratefulness this week.  I am going to make my list tonight.  I hope you will, too.  Thanks for stopping by & visiting with me.  I have to be going now, because should be washing clothes.

Parts of this was taken from a book 101 Ways to Make a Difference today by Candy Paull