Happy Mother’s Day & why Mother’s Day is hard

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Sunday is Mother’s Day.  I hope you have made plans to honor mothers this weekend.  For some people, Mother’s Day can be a hard day.  This week a friend shared with me how he dreaded Mother’s Day every year.  He counted up & said his mama had passed away some 30 years ago.  Still the sting of Mother’s Day is ever present, for him.  I understand what my friend is saying.  My mama passed away almost 12 years ago.  At any time, on any day, I would give anything to see her just one last time.  Mother’s Day is a reminder, my mama is not here for me to celebrate her.  My mother-in-law was just like a mother to me.  She is also deceased.  She was such a terrific person, smart, and strong.  I miss her so much.   My two grandmothers were important in my life, as well.  They molded me into the person I am today.  There is no way I could ever stand idly by as weather got bad.  My Mama Boyce taught us that caution is the best cure to uncertainty.  And that’s with anything in life.  She was a careful planner when it came to things.  Because you just never know when something might happen.  You need to be prepared.  My Mamaw taught me that love is the most important thing in the world.  She loved me & her other grandchildren like there was no tomorrow.  Each one of us held a special place in her heart.  You can ask any of my cousins about our Mamaw.  They will be glad to tell you how she had the talent of making people feel loved.  Like they were the most important thing in the world to her.  She knew how to treat people.  Salt of the earth, she was.

Just like my friend, I have had years that were really hard on Mother’s Day.  However, I do have kids & it’s hard to be sad when they are standing there bearing gifts & smiles in my honor!   Here the past few years I have tried to do a better job of having a kinder attitude toward Mother’s Day. However, in the end, it’s all still the same, I miss my mama, my mother-in-law, & my sweet grandmothers.

One thing that is comforting is that these wonderful ladies were God fearing, Christian women. Let’s look to the things the Bible says a Godly mother is:

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

v.25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

 

Recently, another friend was sharing some things her grandmother had said to her.  It was kind and thoughtful words that only a grandmother can impart.  I told her there was no love like that of a grandmother or mother.  If you have a mother, grandmother, special aunt, or friend still living, please make an effort to acknowledge them on this special day.  I know they will love you for it!   It will be a special Mother’s Day for my daughter, because it is her first Mother’s Day.  Don’t forget to remember those wonderful mothers who have already passed away & their children- who may not love this day.  Your compassion toward those folks are what makes you precious!

 

I hope you are having a wonderful week.  Skies are going to be cloudy & rainy this weekend in our neck of the woods.  That will give me some time to catch up on some things in the house. I hope you have a terrific Mother’s Day!   However, I have to go for now, because I should be washing clothes.

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photo credit: homeliving.blogspot.com, sew country chick

 

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Glorious sunshine & how to be unattractive

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Well, there it was.  I saw it the other day.  Sunshine.  What in the world was the SUN doing SHINING on my day off??  Usually it waits until I get to work & can’t get outside.  But, there it was, the sun.  Shining.  I thought I would never see it again.  You know how it is.  The sun comes out for 5 minutes & everybody has flip flops on and some even shorts.  I just shake my head.

With spring coming along, lots of people are trying to get fit.  I was just talking to a lady at work.  We were saying how this is the time people are throwing it into high gear with their exercising, so they will look good in their clothes for the summer.   No one wants to look unattractive.  We color our hair & get cute haircuts, try to wear trendy clothes, buy the necessary accessories, purchase new shoes, and meticulously apply our make up, whatever it takes to look attractive.  If you are like me, those things may or may not all come together for you.  I tell my hairdresser, I don’t want to be one of those people that you see from the back & think, “Oh what a pretty girl.”  And then you see them from the front & they are cute as can be except they have an old face.  Meaning don’t let me look too young for my age.  So far, we’ve had a pretty good understanding.  She politely tells me when she thinks I need to cut or style my hair this way or that way.  She’s a keeper.

Did you know there are things we do that makes us unattractive?  No, I’m not talking about leaving your eyebrows unattended or not combing your hair.  I’m talking about our inward man.  To God that’s the most important, anyhow.  I read an article on Lifehack.org that talked about how people make themselves unattractive & don’t even realize it.  You can read more about it here

These are some of the statements they proclaim make you unattractive:

  1. You are self-absorbed.
  2. You are rude.
  3. You are always negative.
  4. You are the boss. (Always bossy & have to be in control of everything.)

I Peter 3:3-4 (ESV) says that our inward appearance is much more important that what we look like on the outside.

3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—
4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

It’s funny.  When I read these verses, I think of both of my grandmothers.  Both of them were beautiful to me.  They were beautiful to anyone that knew them.  It may not have been the clothes they wore or their outward appearance.  One of my grandmother’s hardly went to town, so her daily wear was simple.  Most of the time she wore a cotton dress or polyester pants & a soft shirt.  She was a plain person, who did not require much.  She took care of her family.  She was gentle & soft spoken. My other grandmother was more on the go.  She went to town weekly, to church every time the doors were opened, & was very social.  She had plenty of nice dresses & pretty outfits.  She got her hair done every week.  She always had her lips painted & face powdered.  However, when people remember her, they don’t remember what she had on or how she looked on the outside.  They recall the meal she fed them or the kind words she had to say.  She was always there to lend an understanding ear to a friend & had helping hands that seldom rested.  She also had a sweet tempered and caring spirit about her.  I believe these are the women Peter is talking about in these verses.  Coincidently, if you read the whole text he is speaking of how women are to be in subjection to their husbands.  That was another wonderful trait of my grandmothers.  They were both loving & faithful to their husbands.  I am so glad to have had wonderful role models.  If I had my druthers, I would much rather be like these considerate, dear ladies. They were not much for puttin’ on the dog.  They were from the country, hardworking, good to the core people.  You don’t find many like that anymore.

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Don’t get me wrong.  I am a firm believer in doing all you can to make yourself presentable.  No one has ever died of brushing their teeth or bathing too much.  You can comb your hair, put on clean clothes, & wash your face & it will make all the difference in the world.  However, if you are the most beautiful, gorgeous person in the world & have a bad attitude, you really aren’t that pretty.  It doesn’t matter how good looking you are, if no one can stand to be around you, what’s the point?  Our purpose is to seek and save the lost.  How can a person do that if their ways make them unapproachable?  If a person is so self-absorbed they do not care about the condition of another person’s soul, well that’s another blog post about getting your priorities straight.  Oh, I need to just hush right now, before I go off on a tangent.

Thank you for stopping by to visit with me today.  I hope you are working on your outward appearance.  More importantly, I hope you are also working on your inward self.  Because, every day you have to get up, look in the mirror & say, “This is who I am going to have to deal with today.”  You are much better when you are kind & nice.  I hope there is sunshine wherever you are.  I will be enjoying as much sunshine as I can this week. Right now, I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.

photo credits: to such as these, etsy & midnightpoesy.blogspot.com