5 things to do when someone tells you to just get over it.

Have you ever had someone to tell you to just get over it? I have a couple of issues with that. It may take me a minute, but just stay with me & hopefully, I won’t butcher this up too much.

Sometimes, in life, I firmly believe there are things you just don’t have to get over. Take for instance a loved one passing away. That is one of the main things in my life, I deal with, is missing my sweet mama, my salt of the earth grandparents, & my in-laws (who were the best people in the entire world). This is a day in & day out pain that I deal with. However, I do my best not to let it overcome me. My husband & I talk about things my mother in law would have said if she had been here while her great grandchildren were. She would have loved things they do & say. I make mention of my daughter’s love for cooking to be purely a fantastic genetic trait, that was passed down from my mama, her Granny & her great grandmothers. Their love for all of us, their good advice, & examples of Christian living, well, those thoughts live with me every day. And thank God for that. I won’t ever get over it.

What about the blood that Jesus shed on the cross for me? I hope I don’t ever get over that. I won’t ever be able to repay the Lord for what He’s done for me & my family. When I think about what the Lord has done for us, I feel so humbled. We have never been forsaken or felt alone – for long anyway. Because there’s a peace that passes all understanding, that well, I don’t understand. I just know that is one of the benefits of Jesus loving me & me obeying Him.

I read an article, the other day about how to get your kids to behave. Like I really need to know about that, huh? It said, when you want a child to do something specifically, you need to tell them how to do it. Instead of saying, “Watch out, you are going to fall.” You would say to a kid that was standing in a chair jumping up & down & screaming: “Sit down on your bottom and be quiet.” That may sound a little common sense worthy. But think of it y’all. How many times do we say things to people, that we want a certain outcome, but we don’t tell them how to do it? So instead of thinking, “Why don’t they just get over ______________? Fill in the blank with anything you wish here- their divorce, their money problems, their relationship problems, theirselves- maybe they just don’t know how.

So, how do we help others or help ourselves? I have a little list of things, I try to apply, that helps me to make it through:

  1. Pray- I know, I know. That’s all anyone ever says is pray about it. Well, that’s not bad advice. Here lately I’ve been doing a lot of that about certain areas of my life. Time in prayer is never wasted. I Thessalonians 5: 16-18  Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. (NKJV)
  2. Listen & pay attention- If you stop & take time to listen to what the Lord is saying to you, through His Word, you may be pleasantly surprised. The other day, I was talking to a co-worker about my Dad being sick. He was reminding me his wife was in charge of a rehab/nursing home facility & that if he had to have physical therapy, it was a good place to go. While we were talking, my phone rang. It was the case worker at the hospital saying the doctor had put in orders for my Dad to go to rehab & did I know where he would like to go? WELL YES I DID. Some of the best things in the world have been given to us quietly. So pay attention to the little things going on. Those are sometimes the big things. I John 3:20 For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things.(NKJV)
  3. Be social. Sometimes we just need people, that love us, to be around. You need to be able to reach out to others. Sometimes just being with folks you can laugh with & that make you laugh is extremely good medicine for the soul. Go out to eat with your family. Ask some friends to go to the movies. Prepare for hard days by planning to be with your people. Talk to them about how things are playing out for you & that you have a hard time going on. If they are your real friends & it is family that truly loves you, they will be there. Hands down. No matter what. Proverbs 18:24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (NKJV)
  4. Realize you can’t do it without Jesus. It’s so heartbreaking to see people try to live this crazy life without the Lord. His presence & guidance is the best thing in the world. If you read & study His Word, you will get answers. Trust me on this one. You may have to be patient. You may have to wait. But that’s okay. Because God is always working for our good. John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. (NKJV)
  5. Count your blessings. It’s hard to be discouraged & depressed if you are thinking about all the Lord has done for you. Just take a few minutes & think about how blessed you are. Even with all the bad things going on & the hurt & the chaos in the world, we as still so, so, blessed. Luke 6:38 Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”(NKJV)

Y’all life is so complicated sometimes. But there’s One that will take you just as you are. In your weak & broken down spirit, He will take you & comfort you. Right this minute, if you needed someone, do you have that person, you know without a doubt you could call on & they would be there for you? You don’t have to have a large group of people. One will do. Now, can you be that person for someone, as well? Make those your people. Because you matter to them & they matter to you. That’s one of the Lord’s way of taking care of you here. He gives us our people.

I am so glad you came by to visit with me today. 2019 has been a little crazy, so far. My Dad’s health is pretty touch & go right now. He had a fall back about a month ago. From that, it’s just been one thing after another for him.  If you get a chance, just keep him in your prayers. On another note we have a brand spanking new grandgirl! She is just gorgeous, of course. We got to be with family & friends all through the holidays. So, life is pretty good. Until next time I have to be going, because I should be washing clothes.

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Mr. Sweetie Pants- oh how boring life would be without this cutie!

Miss Neenee & Livie

Me & Livie Leigh

If there is a better big brother in the world, I don’t want to know about it.

Big brother visits are the best.

Love all of these faces.

 

 

The need to listen to the quiet and look how big my baby has got

So much of our lives are lived in big ways. When we celebrate, the bigger the better. The bigger the cake, the more confetti, the larger the spread of food, the more we care, right? And don’t forget about the present. Lord have mercy, we’ve got to have the biggest, best, most thoughtful, gift of all. The more expensive the better. If it’s not New Orleans Mardi Gras worthy, BIG, Bragadocious, & have the fireworks flying did you really even have a party?

What about if we had something small with just the kids, a birthday cake, that gets spit on while blowing out the candles & half melted ice cream? Oh and not to mention how bad it gets when we play musical chairs. Nobody. Likes. Losing. Would we still be having a party? I dare say we would. Does everything have to be big and extravagant to be something?

I have really been trying to pay attention to my One Word Focus. With that, I have realized, sometimes, blessings come without the hoopla & without the frills. Is it interesting? Nope. Is it Earth shattering & the angels opening up the heavens? Double nope. Is it so mundane that you take a second glance & say to yourself, “Is this really what this is?” Yep. Something as simple as someone calling to say, “I want to help.” Right at a time you ain’t expecting it AT. ALL. No trumpets were sounded. No mountains trembled. Nothing. Just good hearts wanting to pass along the Lord’s love.

But is it still God? Yep.

I think about Naaman. I’m not sure how much you know about Naaman, but he thought pretty highly of himself. I mean he was the commander of the army of the king of Syria. So, he was obviously hot stuff. There was just this one little thing about Naaman. He had leprosy. You would think that would be humbling enough. When he found out about the prophet Elisha being able to heal him, he just went flat out to his front door. Elisha sent a messenger out telling Naaman to go wash 7 times in the river Jordan. And apparently that took the friendly right out of Naaman because he wanted a PRODUCTION. He wanted hands waving & to be acknowledged. Not to have to get his hands dirty in the muddy river of the Jordan. But instead, he got a quiet blessing. In the murky river of the Jordan he received cleansing of his leprosy.

II Kings 5:14  So he went down and dipped seven times in the Jordan, according to the saying of the man of God; and his flesh was restored like the flesh of a little child, and he was clean.(NKJV)

Boy, don’t you know he was surprised? In his mind he thought he deserved something bigger and better. But, it’s like my daddy always says, “You better hope you don’t ever get everything you deserve.” Naaman received a quiet blessing. (II Kings 5)

All of that tells me this. We need to focus on the quietness of the Lord. We need to be thankful and appreciative of all the blessings the Lord gives us. Even when we are expecting blessings to look like something else. Just because blessings come as chocolate gravy and biscuits instead of a thick cut bone in ribeye, doesn’t mean you didn’t eat, now did it? We are important to God. Our wants and needs are important to Him. Let Him decide how to handle them. If you haven’t heard, God is always right on time.

I hope everyone has had a great week! Did anyone tell you that the kids get out of school this month? As in This. Month. I may or may not have had a little meltdown looking at pictures of my Miss Neenee to put in the yearbook. Not a fan of the growing up thing.

Here’s a picture of Miss Neenee I took last week…..

And now this……

How did this happen?

Athletic Banquet 2018

Please be in prayer for me, as I do my best to keep myself together over how my baby is starting high school in the fall. Lord have mercy. Until next time I will be going because I should be washing clothes.

Birthday wisdom & various photobombs & selfies

 

 

 

Bday selfie

It was my birthday.  My Daddy called to say he wanted to take me out.  Well, you don’t have to tell me twice.  We selected a restaurant.   Then me & some of my other peeps met up with him.  You should know everything we do revolves around eating.  I don’t know if that’s a Southern thing or we just like to make sure we are doing our part to keep farmers in business.

Bday EAThere was this girl who was supposed to be taking birthday snapshots.  However, sometimes she was taking pictures of herself.  Which is ok.  Because she is really pretty.

Bday NEENThen, there was this cutie.  I don’t know what she was doing.  Just entertaining herself with selfies I suppose.

PureBday Nee

Bday neelyEntertainment

bday lakeIIThere were some pictures of me & my honey by the lake.  Hey, who is that standing on the picnic table??    What’s the big idea??

Bday lake

Here is another picture of us.  Wait, do you see the little girl sticking out from behind my honey?  She’s waving.  This is what happens when you have silly kids.  You will never have another good picture again.

Bday girlsThat is unless you can get them both in the picture at the same time.  Don’t they look like angels?

Bday coupleThen here we are again.  Still trying to get a good picture.  Not that ya’ll care, but the wind was blowing like a tornado was coming through.  My hair was everywhere.

Bday NksHere’s this guy again.  Miss Neenee says she loves him a lot.

Bday daddy girls

Pretty sure he loves them a lot, too.

He is always in the mood to give advice.  I was telling EA that night that I had found a way for her to save her money & have $2 million by the time she retired.  In which Daddy advised her:

“Don’t save your money.  When you get that age, you won’t feel like doing anything.  Do everything you want to do, while you are young.  While you can.  Anyways, $2 million dollars won’t be that much by the time you retire anyway.”

I think he was trying to get across to her this:

James 4:14 whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. 

Life is short at best.  We should make sure we take care of our problems the best we can & be ready always.  I also think he was trying to make sure she understood money & earthly possessions are not important.  They will all deteriorate in time.

Matthew 6:19- 21 says

 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Daddy has always made it clear what the Bible says about what is important.  I’m glad he takes the time to tell my kids about these life lessons.  Pretty thankful for my Daddy.  We laugh a lot when we are together.  Sometimes so much it’s hard to get our picture.  And by the way, this is one of my favorites right now:

Bday DaddyI hope you have had a great week.  It humbles me to know how blessed beyond measure I am.  Count your blessings.  They are everywhere!  Until next time, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

 

Memory loss required

memory loss

Memory loss is a major concern in our society.  Why, there are pills boasting improved focus & mental faculty.  Medicines to improve short term & long term memory loss are in abundance.   Remembering how to complete daily tasks is essential in life.  When you are having a conversation with someone, it’s especially helpful if you can remember what the subject is.  Just the other night my husband & I were talking.  Our Miss Neenee came in the living room, where we were.   She asked a question, then went back to her room.  We looked at each other for a moment.  Then, my honey said,

“What were we talking about?” 

I paused for a moment & said, “ I haven’t got a clue.”  

 Those are probably times you want to be able to recall what’s a goin’ on.  Other things that I do, that are a smidge aggravating, which is caused by lapses in memory, are:

  1. Losing my keys. Which are always in the last place I look. Funny how that works out.
  2. Forgetting to put in my contacts. On my drive in to work: “Is that a police car? Are those lights on top of that car? No, that’s a luggage rack. Whew.”
  3. Forgetting to take my hormone replacement. Which is specifically only good for no one around me.
  4. Misplacing bills. Not just your regular ol’ I can pay any time in the month bill. The water bill is my most popular misplaced bill. Luckily, I have made friends with a lady in the office, at the water department. Bless my heart.
  5. Losing my phone. More often than not, Miss Neenee gently says, “Mama, it’s in your hand.” Hey, those things can sneak up on you.
  6. Forgetting what I am doing. I’m making a sandwich. I go to the pantry to get the bread. I look into the laundry room. I forgot to put the clothes in the dryer. I go to putting the clothes in the dryer & I pick through the clothes to leave out some things that need to be hung up to dry. I don’t have a hanger. So, I go back to my closet to get one. On the way, I walk through my bedroom. There’s that bill I was looking for. I go back to the kitchen to get an envelope to put it in. Wait, why is there lunch meat sitting on the bar? Oh yeah, I’m making a sandwich. Sheesh.forgetful zazzle

As much as I need to remember things, the apostle Paul says there are some things we need to not remember at all.

Phillipians 3:13 …but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, (NKJV)

Things that have happened to us in a negative way, are not worth remembering.  We need to forget how rude, stubborn, & hateful people can be.  Sunday, our preacher, Bro. Brad said that people who are know it alls, hard headed, & can’t get along with types will experience much heartache & difficulty in life.  They don’t think they have anything to learn.  They don’t see themselves as needing any improvement in their lives.  They never really realize how their ways keep them from healthy relationships.  They are never ready to accept their own part of their issues.  Because hey, how could anything ever be their fault?  The situation is always somebody else’s doing. They miss out on the happiness, that being around others, can bring.  They miss out on all the richness God would add to their lives, only if they would humble themselves.  All because being judgmental, hard headed, & above their fellow man, are qualities they practice frequently.

We must strive to be humble, gracious folks.  We have to know that we can just as easily not have enough – than have plenty.

James 4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up. (NKJV) 

What if the Lord only blessed you with what you were thankful for?  What if you were the only thing that was holding you back from true blessings & riches from the Lord?  According to James, first you do your part, then the Lord will do His.  So, you kinda are.  Let’s make sure we forget to be stubborn.

Not a real good way to be humble.

Not a real good way to be humble.

You never know what life is going to throw at you.  We must understand we must react with love & concern for others.  And always be mindful that God doesn’t owe us anything.  He gives good to us, however, can take it away, as well.

Job 1:21  And he said:

“Naked I came from my mother’s womb, And naked shall I return there. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; Blessed be the name of the Lord.”

We need to forget to have a hard heart.  No matter how people treat us.  We have to be what God wants us to be regardless.  We need to forget to be resentful.  We need to forget to have hatred in our hearts.  It’s just not worth the blessings you will miss- without all that there.

I am so very glad you came by to visit today.  I got an exciting call from my aunt today.  She said she had picked a big bucket of okra for me!  All I have to do is go get it after work.  I sure hope I don’t forget it.  😉 Until then, I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.

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Attitudes are contagious.  Is yours worth catching?

Improving your life

 

photo credit - Lifehack

photo credit – Lifehack

I am always glad to find new ways to make my life better.  I like inspirational quotes & reading articles about self improvement.  We are a work in progress, ya know!  We should never stop improving. (Wait, did I just sound like a Lowe’s commercial?)  When it comes to ourselves we ought to always be looking for ways to be better.  With the new year, it seemed appropriate to visit this for a minute.

I read an article the other day on the Lifehack website.  It is called 7 Harsh Truths That Will Improve Your Life.  To get the full article go here.  However, today I want to pass along a few things that really hit home for me.  Number one on the list is this:

1.  No one is going to fix you.

It states “It is in your own personal interest to take personal responsibility for your own life.”  Have you ever seen people who were never wrong?  Even when they were wrong, well, if it weren’t for so and so doing such and such things would have never gotten out of hand.  They spend their time trying to justify their wrong doing by pointing the finger at someone else.  Nothing has ever been their fault.  When in fact they are cowards.  They just have a hard time owning up to anything.  Not only is this toxic for the person in question, it is poison for their family & those around them.  Most of the time, these are angry people.  They are not easily satisfied.  They are controlling.  They are rude & generally unhappy people.  They are waiting for something or someone to swoop in & make things all better.  Here is the harsh truth, until these folks decide within themselves to take responsibility for their actions, they will always be broken.

My mama would say,

“You’d better get your life in order, if you want the Lord to bless you.”

  At this point in my life, I get that.

 

Luke 16: 10-11 says He who is faithful in what is least, is faithful also in much, and he who is unjust in what is least is unjust also in much.  Therefore, if you have not been faithful in the unrighteous mammon, who will commit to your trust the true riches? 

Jesus was talking about finances & money in this passage.  But it can be plugged in to your life as a whole.  If you don’t make your relationships, your Christian walk with Christ, your heart right, why would God give you more opportunities than you already have?  If you can’t take care of those simple things, I just bet He’s not going to bless you with more- until you learn to make right what He’s already given to you.

My Mamaw used to say,

“You better clean off your own doorstep, before you start tryin’ to clear off mine.”

Meaning, if you busy yourself with keeping your own life in order, you will never have time to be throwing off on someone else.  This year, I pray the Lord will help me to take care of the areas in my life that need attention.  That I will not blame others for my problems.  And that I will take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth & how I treat others.   In Galatians 5:23 the apostle Paul gives self control as a commandment, not a suggestion.  There will always be those who can’t come to grips with taking personal charge of what they say & do.  I have heard people say, “Well, she may do that, but she is going to know what I think about it.”  Followed by ranting & raving that never makes a bit of difference.  You know what?  Most of the time, people don’t care what we think.  All the hissy fits in the world ain’t gonna make a difference.  Why in the world would you waste your energy that way?  Turn that negative energy into something healthy & productive.

A strong positive attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug. – Patricia Neal

Developing a strong positive attitude is a step toward fixing yourself.  The world is full of discouragement & complaints, heartaches & pain.  Confront whatever it is that is making you mentally unhealthy & make 2014 a year of freedom from bad thoughts, worries, & struggles.  Pray about it & then take action.  Right wrongs, forgive others, ask for forgiveness, & let go of resentment.  It just ain’t worth it.

I am so happy you decided to stop by for a while.  I hope & pray you have had a wonderful new year’s holiday.  I ate my blackeyed peas, turnip greens, and hog jowl.  Bring on 2014!  I am ready!  For now,  I have to be going because I should be washing clothes.